Tapping For Kids Book Release

I am pleased to announce that my new book Tapping For Kids – A Children’s Guide To EFT is now available for purchase online though DragonRising Publishing and is a perfect Christmas present for the children in your life! Click here to BUY NOW

Tapping For Kids is designed to help children (7-11) overcome traumas and problems of everyday life by using EFT. Through a mix of story, activities, rhymes and tapping scripts, the book effectively enhances children’s learning and shows them how EFT can be used to help them overcome their fears, worries and everyday traumas, while at the same time building up their self-esteem. The story in the book is set within “The EFT Palace of Possibilities for Kids”, a multilevel healing high rise where its ‘Caretaker’, known as the TapMeister, runs play shops to help children ‘master the art of tapping’ – a popular new kids movement taking the world by storm! For more information about the book, visit http://www.tappingforkids.com

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REVIEW

Here is a review from an 8 year old reader..

“I liked how the book used songs to help you remember the Happy Buttons. I also love how the children in the book travel the 8 floors and each of the floors have a special activity for you to do or something to learn about tapping. I already now a little bit about tapping, but now I know alot more and it seems like more fun and something easy to do on your own” Antonia S, Nth Dandenong VIC

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Angie Muccillo
Author of Tapping For Kids
Advanced EFT Practitioner
Melbourne, Australia

angiemuccillo@gmail.com

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Decisions We Make As Children

I recently had an EFT session with a woman who has suffered anxiety and depression since her childhood shortly after her father committed suicide. Naturally this is a tragic, deeply traumatic and sad event in any child’s life. She has consequently had years of therapy and whilst she can talk about her father’s death now, it took a very long time before she could do so. At the time and understandably so, due to the level of grief and overwhelm experienced by her mother and family, no-one ever talked about what happened or comforted her in any way and all she remembers is feeling so completely alone, scared and with this constant aching sadness in her heart. After her dad’s death she was always sent to school early and remembers sitting and crying alone and in fear behind the shelter sheds. The family’s grief was so deep and their ability to function normally so severely impaired that her needs for comfort and support were not able to be met by her immediate family.

After tapping on several issues around her father’s death, how she felt as a child and other issues currently affecting her life, she became saddened to realise just how much of her life has been consumed by this and that she was still in part hanging on to the past, despite wanting very much to move on and “get on with it.”  So at this point we tapped on:

“Even though part of me is still hanging on to the past, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though I’m so sad that this has consumed so much of my life that I don’t even know what it’s like not to have it, I deeply and completely accept myself.

“Even though I’ve not had the career, the family, the life I wanted because of this, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though if I give up the past now I won’t know where I’ll be, who I am or where to go, I choose to focus on my personal vision of peace” (which she described earlier, as the life she wanted)

As she tapped on this, a very significant memory of herself as a child popped into her head. She distinctly remembered making a decision “to be miserable.” The reasoning behind this was “if I am miserable someone might come.” She explained that as a child she always felt sad, alone and scared, often crying for hours waiting for someone to come and comfort her but no-on ever did. This “childhood decision” was made at a time when she was in deep mourning for the loss of her father. The “decision to be miserable” became a part of her life and how she experienced it from then on. Something that is likely to be at the core of her depression.

“Even though I made a decision as a child to be miserable, I am an adult now and choose to make a different choice. I choose to be happy and focus on my personal vision of peace instead and let go of the vow I made as a hurt, sad and lonely child”

As we know childhood events shape our lives. I can’t help but wonder how different her life may have been, if as a child living under those circumstances, she had EFT to release all those feelings of sadness, hurt and loneliness. Of course that would not have bought her father back, but the deep pain in her heart that she has felt ever since and that manifests as anxiety, may have definitely been eased.

I think this highlights the importance of teaching our children to tap, whatever opportunity we get because we may never know when they might need it in the future. A happy carefree child today may lose a parent or be subjected to any other similar tragedy tomorrow. A child who has lost a parent (or suffered any other tragedy) in today’s age does have access to these tools and we as adults have the ability to make a difference by teaching it to them.

Do you remember any negative choices you made as a child? Could they be affecting the quality of your life? If so, you have the opportunity as an adult to tap and erase that choice and replace it with a healthier choice. Consider what being at peace means for you and add it to your choice statement when you tap on it.

“Even though as a child I made a choice to……., I deeply and completely accept myself and choose to focus on……(your vision of peace) instead.”

As the author of Tapping For Kids my mission is to help as many children as possible learn “the art of tapping” so that they have the opportunity either with an adult or alone in their room or behind the shelter sheds or in any moment of need to release the strong and overwhelming emotions that they are confronted with. Peaceful children are more likely to become peaceful adults.

Help create peace in the life of a child by teaching them to use EFT routinely as a way of healing and soothing emotional upsets.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Dip Illustrative Photography – Fine Art/Photjournalism)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

EFT Flexibility Exercise

by Angie Muccillo © 2008

Improve Your Flexibility with EFT

Stacey Vornbrock, M.S., Sports Performance Pioneer, of Breakthrough Performance has been successfully using EFT  to has help elite and amateur athletes improve their Range Of Motion (ROM) as part of her injury recovery protocol. Her method is outlined in my article on EFT Pain Management Methods.

The following exercise applies EFT to areas of the body that feel restricted either due to an old injury, overuse or general lack of flexibility. Build this tapping exercise into your training routine, rehabilitation program, to warm up for playing sport or to improve overall general flexibility. You can also use this exercise in between any body work treatments such as massage, chiropractic, physiotherapy, osteopathy etc.

1. Choose a part of your body that feels tight or restricted

The restriction might be in your neck, shoulders, back, hips, legs etc. Work on one area at a time.

2. Measure the Range of Motion before tapping

If your shoulder feels restricted for example, measure its current “range of motion” by moving your arm up (back/forward/side) as far as feels comfortable or until you meet resistance/pain. Observe how far it goes. Give the restriction a rating out of 10 with 10 being completely restricted.

Click here for the EFT tapping points to use with exercise.

3. Start tapping the karate chop and repeat the following statements:

Even though I have this restricted flexibility in my (neck/shoulder/hips/hamstring/calf) I accept myself

Even though I have this restricted flexibility in my (neck/shoulder/hips/hamstring/calf) I choose to release it along with any stored memories or emotions

Even though I have this restricted flexibility in my (neck/shoulder/hips/hamstring/calf) I forgive myself and anyone else I may blame for causing this restriction

Use the following reminder phrase: restricted flexibility in my …………….. (for 2 or more rounds)

4. Measure Range of Motion again

Again move your arm up (back/forward/side) as far as feels comfortable or until you meet resistance/pain. Observe how far it goes this time. Has your flexibility improved? Does your arm move further this time? If there is still some restriction, do another round as follows.

5. Tap for the remaining restriction

Tapping the karate chop repeat the following statements.

Even though I still have some of this restricted flexibility in my (neck/shoulder/hips/hamstring/calf) I choose to release the rest of it along with any remaining blame, stored memories or emotions.

Use the following reminder phrase: remaining restricted flexibility in my…………….(for 2 or more rounds)

Repeating this exercise often may help muscles to gradually lengthen and stay loose and relaxed. Combine this with the EFT Muscle Relaxant exercise for increasing and encouraging muscle health.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

Empowering Kids To Tap On Their Own

By Angie Muccillo
Author of Tapping For Kids
www.tappingforkids.com

While EFT is an ideal tool for parents and teachers to use directly with children, there may be times in a child’s life when teachers, parents or other adults are the actual source of stress for the child. Children who have been taught to tap on their own have the freedom to tap on whatever is bothering them at the time including an upset at home or at school, without having to rely directly on an adult to help them sort the issue out. EFT allows children to overcome daily upsets so that they don’t build into bigger problems.

Sometimes due to fear, shame, guilt or anger children simply won’t discuss their issues with adults. Children get angry at their parents for all sorts of things, even if the relationship is a close and loving one. Sometimes this anger is overtly displayed in their behavior or other times you may not know they are angry with you but it may play out in disruptive way.

If as a parent, your child is angry at you for something you said or did or didn’t do and you are aware of it, it’s harder to get them to tap with you and they are less likely to listen to you because they are angry with you. The child who has learnt to tap on their own however, without the help or prompting of an adult will more likely tap on their anger towards their parent and resolve the issue rather than hang on to it, restoring peace and harmony. If the child can neutralize their anger towards you, their behavior towards you will likely change of it’s own accord, making everybody’s life easier!

Tapping can strengthen the bond between children and their parents or students and their teachers by neutralizing the underlying negative feelings that contribute to the problem. For instance an 8 year old I recently taught EFT to, was intimidated by her teacher and fearful of him, due to outbursts he had in the classroom with regards to another student. Even though she wasn’t the one “in trouble” her fear of him affected how she felt in class and she was constantly worried that she would do something to upset him. Of course the teacher could not have known this and whilst he was doing the best he could to handle a disruptive student, his behavior was interpreted by her as intimidating and frightening.

Her anxiety being in his class was increasing and affecting her school work and she was becoming increasingly anxious about “making a mistake” and “getting into trouble.” The fear of her teacher was at a 9 when we started and went down to a zero after tapping several rounds on how he made her feel. She also tapped on the original incident where the boy was dragged out of class by the teacher. We also tapped on her fear of making a mistake and getting into trouble. She no longer felt the fear and was no longer worried about the incident.

I suggested that she tap each day after school on any remaining or new fears, worries that she had about this teacher. She now has the ability to release these feelings on her own. The benefit of this? A more relaxed school experience, less pressure and stress, greater confidence and the possibility of seeing her teacher in a different light, improving not only her classroom experience but quite possibly the teacher/student relationship as well. If allowed to spiral out of control, her fear may have continued to affect her school work. With EFT as an intervention this cycle was stopped in it’s tracks and without the fear, worry and stress, a more conducive learning experience was possible.

As parents, teachers and guardians we simply cannot know everything that is bothering a child or how an event affects them emotionally. Passing this skill onto our children empowers them to use it whenever or for whatever issue is bothering them even when the source of the stress is someone they love.

In my opinion EFT is a life skill that no child should be without! “Tapping For Kids” is my first book and is inspired by a strong desire to put EFT into the hands of young people as a tool to help them overcome their fears, worries and everyday traumas as well as build their self-esteem. This book is an essential resource for any parent, educator, counselor or anyone interested in teaching children how to use EFT to manage their emotions and release everyday traumas. For more information visit www.tappingforkids.com

Handling Your Child’s Emotional Crisis with EFT

by Angie Muccillo ©2008
Author of Tapping For Kids
www.tappingforkids.com

When your child comes to you in an uncontrollable fit of anger following an incident at school for example, how do you respond or handle the situation?

• Do you get angry yourself?
• Do you offer reassurance and try to clam your child down with soothing words?
• Do you listen to their story?
• Do you try and distract them from their emotions with another activity?
• Do you try and offer solutions or help them come up with their own?
• Do you dismiss it because in your eyes they are overacting?
• Do you feel frustrated and powerless because you haven’t a clue what to do?

These might be some of the ways parents respond to a child who is in the middle of an emotional crisis. As parents who have experienced this scenario would probably know, it can take quite some time to get your child to calm down and furthermore resolve the issue, even with a lot of attention and guidance from you. If left alone to ‘work it out’, the child might internalize that anger, without having an appropriate means of releasing it. Sometimes parents don’t have the time, energy and resources to handle a child in crisis. With EFT as an intervention, your child’s emotional crisis can be dealt with in the moment and can be diffused within minutes.

For parents who have not heard of EFT, it is a remarkable energy technique for safely and naturally releasing negative emotions by tapping on various acupressure points on the body and can be used to effectively handle your child’s emotional crises and at the same time diffuse and calm your own reactions – making it an empowering method for both children and parents. With the application of EFT your child’s emotional state can be transformed from screaming and yelling, crying or panicking one minute to peaceful, calm and happy the next.

A mother recently told me about her 7 year old daughter who came home from school one day in such a fury over an incident with a boy, that she was not only totally taken aback by her daughter’s intense anger and hatred towards the boy, but also at a loss as to how to calm her down. Talking it through simply didn’t work and seemed to make her more and more angry. I spoke to the mother about how EFT could have been used as an intervention to release the anger on the spot and help her daughter to calm down, with a strong chance of even forgetting about the matter altogether. As a parent this would have saved her many hours of frustration, since nothing she tried would calm her daughter down.

When a child (or adult) is angry, according to EFT theory, what really occurs is a disruption in the body’s energy system and clearing the disruption by tapping certain acupressure points brings about instant stress relief. In children this appears to happen quite rapidly. I have used EFT with both children and adults and marvel at how children resolve their issues far more rapidly. After tapping a few rounds on an issue that is upsetting them, children will often lose the charge surrounding the issue so that it no longer has a strong emotional pull, leaving them free to get on with playing, having fun and enjoying their precious childhood years.

Let’s imagine now, that your child has learned to tap for themselves and they approach you in a fit of anger. To help your child calm down you could:

Listen to their story and remind them to start tapping as they continue to tell you about what is upsetting them. Remaining neutral, simply LISTEN (without reaction or judgment) and encourage them to tap until they have finished telling you their story. At the end of their story, ask the question: what is upsetting you most about this now? Continue to listen as the child tells you what is upsetting them most. Within a few minutes of tapping it is likely that the anger they felt before they started tapping has been significantly reduced and all you had to do was listen and remind them to tap.

A child who has been properly skilled up in EFT may in future tap on their own and you might only hear the tail end of the story, after which they tapped on it may not be as dramatic or profound. There are also those cases when children won’t talk about what is upsetting them but if they know how to apply EFT themselves they can tap on what is bothering them and release the emotion rather than bottling it up or suppressing it.

Childhood can certainly be a turbulent time but with EFT we can equip children with a simple tool to help them manage their own emotions in times of crisis. Teaching children to tap is not only an excellent way to help them deal with everyday emotional traumas but also prevents the emotional scars of childhood from sticking around until adulthood. In addition, a child who uses EFT everyday strengthens their personal resilience and enhances their emotional intelligence.

As Gary Craig, creator of EFT says,

“Together we can do something very special for our children. When I say our children I don’t just mean those who grow up in our individual households and carry around our last names. I mean the children of the world–everyone’s children. I’m talking about the little folks of today who become the big folks of tomorrow and influence the direction of this planet”

In my opinion EFT is a life skill that no child should be without! That is why I have written a book (soon to be released) that provides children with a thorough introduction to EFT. “Tapping For Kids” is an interactive book designed to teach 7-11 year olds how to use EFT as a tool to help them overcome their fears, worries everyday traumas as well as build their self-esteem.

About The Book

“Tapping For Kids” is a complete and thorough introduction to EFT told through story, activities and rhyme, enhancing children’s learning. Full of interesting explanations, exercises and specialized tapping scripts designed to encourage kids to tap everyday as a normal part of their lives, this book is ideal for reading and sharing with your children and can be used as a teaching resource in the classroom or as a tool in a therapy.

The story is set within “The EFT Palace of Possibilities” a multilevel healing High Rise where it’s ‘Caretaker’ known as the TapMeister, runs Playshops to help children master the art of tapping – a new trend, taking the world by surprise! Each level of the Healing High Rise presents a new lesson/concept and corresponding activity, rhyme and tapping script providing experiential learning in the calming benefits of EFT. The book is designed to build children’s understanding and confidence in using EFT and offers plenty of suggestions for incorporating it in their daily lives.

Further Information

The book will be available soon as both a paperback book and as a digital e-book for immediate download. Visit www.tappingforkids.com for more information.

If you would like to know more about how EFT can help children change their emotional state and deal with childhood traumas both big and small, visit the World Centre for EFT’s Children Section to read about how other parent’s, teachers and counselors have used EFT as an effective intervention.

If you would like to receive notification of the book’s release please send me an email sublime@pacific.net.au or angiemuccillo@gmail.com.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

EFT Scripts For Self-Esteem

By Angie Muccillo © 2008

Become Your Own “Esteem Generator”
“Give yourself an esteem bath daily”

“Just stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the I and give yourself an esteem bath. Immerse yourself in good feelings, shower yourself with adulation, bathe yourself in love. Do this everyday and you will always leave your house under a full head of esteem”

Swami Beyondanda www.wakeuplaughing.com

Erasing Negative Self-Scripts

In his Palace Of Possibilities Series – Using EFT to Achieve One’s Potential, Gary Craig talks in depth about the “writings on our walls” as a metaphor for our self talk; the attitudes, opinions & beliefs that we have accumulated over the years from our parents, grandparents, teachers, coaches, religion, peers, books, TV and an endless list of other “authorities” in our lives, that we use to define ourselves and our self worth. Our self-judgments are a reflection of the accumulated ‘writings on our walls’ both positive and negative.

We all have different words and statements posted on our walls. The “truths” written on your walls are different from the “truths” written on mine. However, what we may have come to believe as “truths” about ourselves may not really be “truths” at all. They are just the guidelines we have adopted for getting through life-AND-many of them are fictions.

According to Gary Craig, “our cans and cant’s are written on those walls and we obey those dictates as though they were real, without the awareness that they are simply hand-me-down beliefs that were written on our walls by others.”

These “writings” may indeed contain many “negative self scripts” which are the negative statements, negative descriptions, deprecating self remarks, negative attitudes and self-perceptions we hold to be “true” about ourselves, but which only serve to limit our success and happiness and deplete our self confidence.

So before we can become self-affirming, we need to identify and erase the negative beliefs we hold to be true about ourselves. By tapping on your “negative self-scripts” you can clear away a lifetime of accumulated and outdated negative programming and replace it with more positive, life enhancing self-scripts, creating real and dramatic changes in your level of self-confidence.

You can use EFT to identify and release all of your accumulated “negative self-scripts”.

Clearing the negative self-scripts from your “mental closet” can have major implications for your overall mental health and wellbeing.

Investing time in yourself to systematically EFT (“spring-clean”) all your negative self scripts out of existence, is an exercise in self-care and self love.

Believing in Negative Self-Scripts http://www.coping.org/growth/affirm.htm#What

The outcome of believing in negative self-scripts can result in:

Over-dependence on the approval of others: You may have an inordinate need to receive positive reinforcement or approval for what you are, how you act, and what you do from others, with an inability to be self-rewarding.

Lack of self-esteem and low self-concept: You may have an inability to believe in your own worth, inability to see any value in your own life, a poor self-image, and a lack of belief in your competency to succeed in life.

Immobilization: A rigid belief system immobilizes you from taking risks in life, prevents you from wanting to make a change, freezes your feelings into a negative pattern, and convinces you that your only role in life is to be victimized by those from whom you cannot escape.

Negativity: Your negative view of yourself leads you to see all of your world in a negative light. You begin to believe and act as a `”loser.” You see nothing in a positive light and can’t be convinced that there is a better option in life.

Pessimism: You no longer believe that you will succeed and are no longer willing to take an optimistic position as you look to your future. You can see only gloom and doom on the horizon.

Self-Pity: You begin to feel so sorry for yourself and how life has treated you that you become your best “pity party” guest. You are so lost in your self-sorrow, regrets, remorse, sympathy, and pity that you refuse to be shaken or changed. You begin to believe that no one will notice you if they can’t feel sorry for you too.

Cynicism: You take a “yes-but” cynical look at every suggestion for change in your life. You begin to doubt in the sincerity, kindness, and love of others who are trying to help you. You create a barrier of cynicism to block them out, thus convincing yourself when they leave you that they really didn’t care.

The “Guard-All Shield”: You create an invisible shield, tough for others to see or to penetrate. People will approach you and try to get involved, but you zap them with your shield and they back away or turn and run. The shield is so subtle that at times you don’t even know it exists, and you get confused by people pulling away from you. This shield can take the form of coldness, wise cracking, fear of being hurt, aloofness, unwillingness to change or take a risk, fear of being taken advantage of, fear of intimacy, fear of failure, fear of hurting others, or any other feeling that keeps you from connecting emotionally with another person

Fulfillment of the Prophecy: Because negative self-scripts predict the worst, you at some subconscious level work to achieve the worst and succeed in fulfilling the negative prophecy of: failure, rejection, loss, disapproval, or any other catastrophe or malady. It is a pattern of being self-destructive with one’s life.

How To Become An Esteem Generator

STEP 1: The first step in becoming your own “esteem generator” is to release all of your negative self scripts.

Begin by making a list under each of the following categories:

1. Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily. E.g. “I’m a bad mother” “I don’t deserve to be loved” I’m a useless so and so”

2. Negative statements about yourself which sprinkle your every­day conversation. E.g. “I’m not very good at….” “I’m not good with money”

3. Self-deprecating remarks that influence your behavior or beliefs. “I’m a loser” “I’m so stupid” “I’m a failure”

4. Negative descriptions given to you by members of your family of origin or peer group when you were younger onto which you hold even to this day. E.g. “you will never amount to anything” “you’re too big for your boots”

5. Negative feedback you get from your spouse, boss, teacher, colleagues, children, parents, relatives, or others that you take personally and incorporate into your personal belief system. E.g. “You’ll never save up for your own home, the way you waste your money”

6. Negative self-images you have of your body, looks, face, weight, coloring, hair, feet, or other parts of your body, which as you visualize, influence your presentation of self to others. “I hate my fat thighs” “I’m ugly”

7. Negative assessment you or others have made of your competency, skills, ability, knowledge, intelligence, creativity, or common sense. You have agreed with this internally and, thus, believe it true of you. E.g. “you don’t have the brain for business”

8. Negative stories about your past behavior, failures, or performances that you systematically run over in your mind and which influence your current conduct. E.g. “once a cheater, always a cheater, once a smoker, always a smoker” etc.

9. Negative attitudes about the possibility of your achievement of success in your life; these influence your motivation, effort, and drive for attainment of goals. E.g. “I will never get a promotion/pay rise

10. Negative visualizations you have of your current status or state in life to your personal detriment. E.g. “I’m just a housewife”

11. Feelings of guilt for real or imagined debilitating wrongs you have committed that prevent positive self-valuing thoughts. E.g. “I don’t deserve happiness because I cheated on my ex girlfriend.”

12. Negative prophecies that you or others have made about yourself, your future, your success, your relationships, your family, or your health. E.g. “I’ll never find my perfect partner”

Now that you have created a list of all your negative self scripts, start with the most “highly rated script” or “the most highly charged” belief and apply EFT to each item on your list.

Examples:

“Even though I’m a bad mother, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”

“Even though I don’t deserve to be loved, I deeply and completely love and accept myself

“Even though I’m not good with money” etc

STEP 2: Counter negative self-scripts and feel better about yourself with these “I” Catching Mirror Exercises!

“I” Catching Mirror Exercise # 1- Self Appreciation Script

Use this exercise if you are feeling generally unloved, unappreciated and unnoticed. Replace the word “nobody” with the name of the person who is making you feel this way.

Instructions:

Standing in front of the mirror, look yourself in the “I” and while rubbing the sore spot or tapping the karate chop repeat the following:

“Even though (nobody) appreciates me, I choose to shower MYSELF with adulation and bathe myself in love”

“Even though (nobody) loves me, I choose to shower MYSELF with adulation and bathe myself in love”

Even though (nobody) pays any attention to me, I choose to shower MYSELF with adulation and bathe myself in love”

Tap several rounds of:

• Nobody appreciates me
• Nobody loves me
• Nobody pays any attention to me

Then tap several rounds of:

• I choose to shower MYSELF with adulation and bathe myself in love

“I” Catching Mirror Exercise # 2 – Statements of Self-Belief

“I am” “I can” “I will”

The daily use of these “I” statements is another form of self-affirmation designed to counter negative self-concepts. It can result in a positive attitude, optimism, and can motivate you toward emotional growth and progress.

Here are some healing, positive self-scripts you can give to yourself to counter your negative self-scripts (with or without the mirror!).

“I am” statements

This are positive affirmations of a real state of being that exists in you. Brainstorm and write your own list of “I am” statements, by taking a personal positive inventory of your attributes, strengths, talents, and competencies.

Examples include:

• I am competent
• I am energetic
• I am strong
• I am enthusiastic
• I am intelligent
• I am relaxed
• I am beautiful
• I am joyful
• I am a good person
• I am trusting
• I am caring
• I am generous
• I am loving
• I am courageous
• I am smart
• I am forgiving
• I am creative
• I am open
• I am talented
• I am sharing

Repeat these “I am” statements while tapping the EFT points to install a new healthier self-script.

“I Can” Statements

These are positive affirmations of your ability to accomplish goals. It is a statement of your belief in your power to grow, to change, and to help yourself.

Brainstorm and write your own “I can” statements and tap on them.

Examples include:

• I can lose weight
• I can stop smoking
• I can heal
• I can handle my children
• I can let go of guilt
• I can gain self-confidence
• I can let go of fear
• I can take risks
• I can change
• I can be a winner
• I can be positive
• I can be strong
• I can be a problem solver
• I can pass calculus
• I can handle my own problems
• I can laugh and have fun
• I can be honest with my feelings
• I can be assertive
• I can let go of being compulsive
• I can control my temper
• I can succeed

“I Will” Statements of Positive Change in Your Life

These are positive affirmations of a change you want to achieve. They are positive statements of what you want to happen. They are your “success prophecies.”

Brainstorm and write your own list of “I will” statements and tap on them to help install more empowering self-scripts.

Examples include:

• I will like myself better each day
• I will gain emotional strength each day
• I will lose weight each day
• I will smoke less each day
• I will control my temper today
• I will give others responsibility for their lives today
• I will grow emotionally stronger each day
• I will smile more at my customers today
• I will offer my comments in class today
• I will praise my children today
• I will feel good things about me today
• I will sleep easily tonight
• I will feel less guilt each day
• I will face my fears courageously today
• I will take on only what I can handle today
• I will take care of me today
• I will challenge myself to change today
• I will manage my time better today
• I will handle my finances wisely today
• I will take a risk to grow today

“I” Catching Mirror Exercise # 3 – Self Appreciation Meditation

This is a self-appreciation meditation by Shakti Gawain, which you can use EFT with.

Tap the EFT points as you imagine yourself in some everyday situation, and picture someone (maybe someone you know, or a stranger) looking at you with great love and admiration and telling you something they really like about you.

Now picture a few more people coming up and agreeing that you are a very wonderful person. (If this embarrasses you, stick with it.) Imagine more and more people arriving and gazing at you with tremendous love and respect in their eyes. Picture yourself in a parade or on a stage, with throngs of cheering, applauding people, all loving and appreciating you. Hear their applause ringing in your ears. Stand up and take a bow, and thank them for their support and appreciation.

Here’s to a new healthier self-esteem!

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

Using EFT To Release the Pain Of “Saying Goodbye”

By Angie Muccillo © 2007

The Pain of Saying Goodbye

Is there a person, place, or situation in your life you have to say “goodbye” to? Is someone you love moving away, or dying, or are you the one moving away and leaving the place and the people you love behind? Does the thought of saying goodbye in this case cause sadness or pain, regret, abandonment, grief, bitterness or fear? Alternatively is there someone or something in the past that you had to say goodbye to and the thought of it still creates pain?

As life is never stagnant the people and places in our lives will always come and go and so we are all at some stage faced with the prospect of saying goodbye. This is a time which can be filled with an array of positive and negative emotions. Many a song lyric, movie, poem and novel has been written around the theme of painful goodbyes.

Tap On Your Goodbyes

Using EFT to release the pain of “saying goodbye” can make it easier to accept the situation or to “let go and move on” from whatever person or circumstance is leaving or has left your life. Saying goodbye is not always painful, but when it is painful, taking the time to focus on it and tap can be very healing and emotionally liberating. It is also useful as a personal peace exercise.

How To Tap on Your Goodbyes

Past Goodbyes

Make a list of all the “painful goodbyes” you can think of from when you were a child until now. Give each “painful goodbye” a name or label (“the time I had to say goodbye to……”)and apply the EFT Movie Technique to each one of these movies until you release all the negative emotions around these specific events.

Future Goodbyes

Think of a person, place or thing that you will be saying goodbye to in the near future and on a scale of 0-10 rate how upset you are at the thought of this? E.g. It may be a friend who’s moving away or a close colleague who is leaving work or a child that is moving out of home or a parent who is returning to their home country or a partner who is leaving for war duty etc. Use the sets ups below or create your own.

“Even though it’s hard to say goodbye to______________ I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “It’s hard to say goodbye”

“Even though saying goodbye to ______________ is painful and fills me with (sorrow/pain/fear/regret/anger etc) I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “Saying goodbye is painful”

“Even though I don’t want to say goodbye to_____________ I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “I don’t want to say goodbye”

“Even though saying goodbye hurts, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “Saying goodbye hurts”

“Even though I don’t want to move on in my life without ____________________, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “I don’t want to move on without you. Don’t make me”

“Even though I hate goodbyes, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “I hate goodbyes”

“Even though I’m afraid of letting go and moving on, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “Fear of letting go and moving on”

Energetic Goodbyes

Perhaps there is someone you still haven’t said “goodbye” to “properly” in your heart or you didn’t have a chance to say goodbye to before they died. If there is someone you feel “ready” to say “goodbye” to, you can either think about or look at a picture of them and tap continuously as you repeat the word “goodbye” at each point.

“Say Goodbye” to the Pain of “Saying Goodbye”

Someone very important to me is about to leave my life by moving away, so now more than ever I am very grateful for the use of EFT in helping me to release the “yucky stuff” so I can embrace the experience with joy and gratitude. For me this current “goodbye” has triggered deep sadness reminding me of the pain associated with “past goodbyes” all of which I can neutralize with EFT.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

From Fear Of Intimacy To An Open Heart

By Angie Muccillo © 2007

Set Ups with Commitment!
Using the EFT Set Up Statement as “A Pledge”

To me the use of the ‘sore spot’ when performing the EFT Set Up feels somewhat like making a pledge. We place a hand over the heart and massage it while making a verbal acknowledgment, statement of intention, purpose or commitment.

A pledge is somewhat like a ‘heartfelt promise’ or commitment. We make all sorts of pledges – we pledge things to ourselves, to our country, to our kids, to others…

When we make a pledge, we state our commitment to doing or being or having something. When we make a pledge, we are directly stating our intention. I like to use the EFT set up statement, as a way of making a pledge (to release what is holding me back in preference for something I want to be, do or have.)

Below is an example of an EFT Pledge Statement using the common‘fear of intimacy’ as an example. You can use this exercise if you have been hurt in a relationship and fear getting close to someone else for fear of getting hurt again. This is a great “baggage buster” exercise! “Out with the old” fears and “in with the new” commitment to love!

EFT Pledge Statement – From Fear Of Intimacy To An Open Heart

Try this heart opening exercise..

Place your hand on your heart (otherwise known as the sore spot in EFT) and massage it in a circular motion while making the following pledge statement aloud:

“Even though I have this fear of intimacy, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I fear that if I get close to someone again, I will just risk getting hurt again and that will mean experiencing all that pain over again, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I cover up my fear of intimacy by busying myself and keeping myself distracted, I realize this no longer serves my highest good and choose instead to release and trust that things will always turn out for the best, even if at the time it doesn’t appear to be so. Even though I fear making myself vulnerable for fear of getting hurt, I choose to open my heart slowly, bit by bit, at my own pace and in my own time. I choose to learn how to trust others again and start by trusting myself implicitly. Even though this fear of intimacy is preventing me from having the best possible relationship, I choose to open my heart to love again so that I can enjoy deep, meaningful and loving relationships. Even though at times I don’t allow an intimate connection with myself, I choose to nurture and support myself in all that I do. I choose to let go of my fear of being hurt and I choose to feel safe and secure.”

Reminder Pledge:

Tap one (shortcut) round of each of these statements

Round 1: “I hereby choose to be completely free of the all fears that are keeping me from being intimate and loving again.”

Round 2: “I hereby release all fears and doubts about my ability to be intimate and to love again.”

Round 3: “I choose to open my heart slowly, bit by bit, at my own pace and in my own time”

Round 4: “I choose to let go of my fear of being hurt and I choose to feel safe and secure in a new relationship”

Round 5: “I choose to open my heart to love again so that I can enjoy deep, meaningful and loving relationships”

Round 6: “I hereby commit to love”

Create your own pledge statements for any area in your life or problem you would like to address or change.

What sort of a pledge will you make?

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

Tapping Into Your Body’s Wisdom With EFT

By Angie Muccillo © 2007

Connecting To Your Body Wisdom

Learn the art of connecting to your body wisdom and help your body to heal itself. Learning to listen to your body for cues and clues on what it needs to function optimally can be done with the help of EFT. The benefits of connecting to your body wisdom can include greater understanding and insight into what your body needs to balance, flourish and thrive.

Establish Communication

Our body’s wisdom is available whenever we take the time to check in and hear what it has to say. Too many times we may have stifled its messages by numbing our senses with food or other substances, dulling our awareness with overwork, and ignoring symptoms or turning them off with painkillers. Over a period of time this can wear the body’s natural defenses down to the point where illness and disease develop.

‘Talking to your body’ or connecting to your body wisdom may require a simple shift in perspective in how you view your body. Imagine your physical body is an intelligent being that understands what you say and communicates back to you through your thoughts, feelings and emotions. You can learn to enjoy a union with your body in a whole new way, by listening to your body’s voice, hearing its rhythms and honoring the language it seeks to speak.

Step 1: ASK Your Body the Following Questions

Getting into the habit of asking your body these questions will help you tune into your body’s true needs to achieve balance and flow. Ask you body directly:

What on this day to I need to operate at a high level of balance?

What on this day can I do to create a sense of flow in my life?

What makes my body feel nourished?

What foods does my body crave?

What makes my body feel relaxed?

What makes my body feel safe?

What makes my body feel grounded?

Pay attention to what your body is asking for. What is your body telling you right now? If your body had a voice what do you think it would be saying right now?

Are you feeling tired? Is the body requesting rest? It is quite logical, on this level to imagine that the best way for your body to get your attention to request rest, is to make you feel tired.

What foods does my body crave? What makes my body feel nourished?

Step 2: LISTEN To What Your Body Needs

Tune into and gently connect with your body by giving it your focus and attention. Still and quiet the mind, make the body comfortable, treat it with the love and respect you would afford another. Follow your natural instincts, trusting that they are precisely what the body needs in this moment in time, to function at it’s most optimum and to carry out it’s required functions.

Step 3: How To Use EFT to Connect to Your Body’s Wisdom

If you are not used to communicating with you body in this way, you may use the following EFT Tapping Script to help you establish, strengthen and maintain an ongoing connection to your body’s inner wisdom. Listening and responding to the body’s needs on a daily basis can help improve health and prevent dis-ease.

Tap into to what your body needs to maintain optimum health.

EFT Set Up Statement

While rubbing the sore spot or tapping the karate chop

“Even though I am not used to communicating with my body on this level, I now choose to acknowledge that you have your very own intelligence that knows precisely what you need.

“Even if until now I have not asked or listened to what you need, I am now committed to serving you and all your needs. I openly listen and ask you daily what you need most to operate a high level of balance. I am committed to working with you and to respond to your requests, which will be easy for me to understand and interpret.”

“Even if until now you have had to create dis-ease to get my attention, I now choose to listen to you.”

EB: I am not used to communicating with my body

SE: I don’t always ask you what you need

UE: I don’t always listen to what you need

UN: sometimes you’ve had to create dis-ease to get my attention

CH: sometimes I ignore symptoms and warning signs

CB: sometimes I’m too busy to pay attention

UA: I have not listened to what you need

UB: you’ve had to create dis-ease to get my attention
EB: I’m not tuned in to my body’s rhythms

SE: I don’t respond to my body’s requests

UE: I don’t always listen to what you need

UN: sometimes you’ve had to create dis-ease to get my attention

CH: sometimes I ignore symptoms and warning signs

CB: sometimes I’m too busy to pay attention

UA: I have not listened to what you need

UB: you’ve had to create dis-ease to get my attention
EB: I now choose to acknowledge that you have your very own intelligence that knows precisely what you need

SE: I am now committed to serving you and all your needs

UE: I openly listen and ask you daily what you need most to operate a high level of balance.

UN: I am committed to working with you

CH: I respond to your requests

CB: which will be easy for me to understand and interpret

UA: I now choose to listen to you

UB: I now choose to connect to my body’s wisdom
EB: I now choose to acknowledge that you have your very own intelligence that knows precisely what you need

SE: I am now committed to serving you and all your needs

UE: I openly listen and ask you daily what you need most to operate a high level of balance.

UN: I am committed to working with you

CH: I respond to your requests

CB: which will be easy for me to understand and interpret

UA: I now choose to listen to you

UB: I now choose to connect to my body’s wisdom

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

EFT Muscle Relaxant Exercise

by Angie Mucillo © 2007

Do you have difficulty relaxing? Do you experience tension in any part of your body? Is your body in a state of constant tension? Remove the stress from your body with this EFT “Muscle Relaxant” Exercise.

Use it daily and experience the cumulative effects, or apply it specifically to areas of your body where you experience muscle spasms.

You can use this exercise to enhance the effects of a massage or before a meditation/yoga/exercise session or before going to bed at night to help your body relax before bed.

This is an excellent self-care exercise, one that your body will love you for!

Tapping the karate chop or rubbing the sore spot repeat the following set up 3 times:

“Even though my muscles are in a state of constant tension I allow them to return to their natural state of relaxation. I feel a warmth and heaviness throughout my body. I experience a profound state of physical relaxation, bodily health and mental peace”.

Click here for EFT Tapping Points

1st tapping round: “My muscles are in a state of constant tension”. You can break it down and tap on the areas of your body that experience the most tension. “The muscles in my back are in a state of constant tension.” “The muscles in my shoulders are in a state of constant tension.”

2nd tapping round: “I allow my muscles (in my__________) to return to their natural state of relaxation.”

3rd tapping round: “I feel a warmth and heaviness throughout my body.”

4th round of tapping: “I experience a profound state of physical relaxation, bodily health and mental peace.”

Take a deep breath and check in to see how different you body feels.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

If Your Aching Shoulder Could Talk, What Would It Say?

By Angie Muccillo © 2007

A Word From Our Complaints

You complain about your body complaints – that “damn shoulder,” “those bung knees,” “that creaky neck,” but how about giving your body complaints a chance to complain about you? I wonder what they would have to say?

The purpose of this exercise is to give your painful body parts a chance to voice their point of view and express their pain and hurt while giving you a chance to really listen and take note. In this exercise you will be paying attention to your aching screaming body parts. This is an exercise in “in-tuition” Learning from within. It involves tuning in to your body and learning what it needs by listening to how it feels.

Communicating with your body in this way can re-establish or strengthen your connection to it. Sometimes we spend so much time complaining about our pain (either silently or aloud) that we forget to stop and listen for the message in the pain. Once we understand what our shoulder is ‘angry’ about, for example we can release it with EFT.

Let’s see what a ‘typical’ shoulder has to say. If you have a shoulder complaint of any sort then do your shoulder a favor and tap along. Simply tap the EFT points continuously as you read this script. You can borrow the benefits from this shoulder complaint. This is definitely one “uptight” shoulder!

A Word From Our Shoulder Complaint…

“Hi it’s me, your shoulder, yes that’s right REMEMBER ME? It’s nice to be heard FINALLY! Where do I begin? I’ve tried and tried to get your attention over and over again but you just won’t listen to me. I have sent you repeated pain signals and messages but you ignore all my warnings and push on despite them. What’s that all about? I don’t understand why I have to get so red and angry to be heard. It’s the only time you acknowledge me and when you do all I get is condemned. “That damn shoulder!” you cry. I feel like hunching over every time you hurl abuse at me. How do you think that makes me feel?

You complain about me, well you know what? I’ve got a few complaints of my own. I’ve been carrying your load and burdens all these years and what sort of appreciation do I get? NONE! To be honest I am fed up and angry with you for treating me so badly. I’ve been supporting you all these years but I’m cracking and crumbling under the pressure. All I want is to know that I am doing a good job. Just the slightest acknowledgment would do. Some positive attention for a change would be greatly appreciated.

BUT you keep saying ‘yes’, when you mean ‘no. ‘I’m sick and tired of it. I wish you would follow your ‘no’s’ for a change. But because you don’t follow your ‘no’s’, you always end up over committing yourself and working too long and too hard and you don’t even enjoy it most of the time. Then you take it all out on me and complain incessantly about how I bother you and what a pain I am and how I stop your from doing what you need to do. I just tighten up more and more every time I hear you say yes to something you don’t want to do or be or have. I’m sick and tired of being tied up in knots all the time!

If you insist on carrying all those burdens and don’t learn to say no, when you mean no, then I’m going to have to say it for you by flaring up and firing a few more pain signals your way. I might even freeze right up so you can’t move and then you’ll be forced to stop what you are doing right there and then. I know that may seem a little harsh but that way you might get the message that I’m overworked and overtired and deserve a holiday!! Here’s the deal. I’ll rush you a load of those feel good chemicals you like so much, just as soon as you relax and give me a break! Deal?”

Step by Step Guidelines For Writing Your Own Script

How To “Take Note” of Your Complaints

Step1. Choose a physical complaint, and ask your complaint to state it’s own complaints.

Step 2. Invite your aching body part to speak up. Ask for the loudest complaint to come forward and deal with this one first.

Step 3. Focus on the area of your body you would like to heal e.g. shoulder, neck, back, stomach etc and ask it to talk to you about how it is feeling. Encourage your chosen body part to express any complaints and upsets openly and honestly and without holding back. Listen carefully and write down everything you are being told, take note of every complaint, every unheard request and every upset. You are at the service of your body here. Your job is to simply “take note.” Allow yourself to be creative in the process.

Step 4. Once you have finished your script, read it out aloud and either tap continuously on the EFT points OR rub the sore spot until you get to the end of the script and then use a reminder phrase at each point such as, “this (name of body part) complaint.”

Step 5: Write a reply to your complaint in the form of a “Self Care Plan”. This is your chance to address your body’s complaints. Write to your complaint or simply talk to it about your intentions to address its concerns. You may want to start by acknowledging its complaints and showing empathy for what it is experiencing. You can then explain what you plan to do (what action you will take) to address these complaints. For example, a “Self Care Plan” for the above shoulder complaint might sound something like this. Again tap along to borrow the benefits.

“Dear Shoulder

Yes I hear you loud and clear now that I’ve stopped and taken time out of my busy schedule to take note of how you feel about all this. I know I’ve been a pain to live with lately, but things are going to change now. Even though in the past I have been guilty of not listening to you, from now on I vow to tune in to how you are feeling and do what is necessary to take care of it. As soon as I start to receive a pain signal from you, I will promise to stop and look at what I’m doing that is overloading you. I vow to take care of you, respect you, praise you and appreciate you for all your hard work. Yes you have carried me all this time and now I take the time to show my appreciation.

How’s this I will ensure that you get a massage at least once a fortnight (or weekly if you’re complaining gets too loud!) I will take your advice and start saying no, when I mean no. Even though I’ve been guilty of saying ‘yes’ when I mean ‘no’ I choose to follow my ‘no’s’ from now on. I will take a long hard look at what I take on and whether it is in my best interest. I put you first and focus on getting balance back into my life so that you don’t have to work so hard. Hey and guess what I just went to see the boss and I’ve put in for 6 weeks off? Now does that sound like a “Self Care Plan” or what?

Do You Need Extra Help Tuning In?

If you have difficulty tuning into to your body and you can’t ‘hear’ the messages, try these little EFT “Tune Ups”:

Even though I can’t tune in to what my body is trying to tell me, I choose to listen for the message in the pain.

Even though I’m so out of touch with my body’s needs, I choose to practice listening and taking note of what my body is trying to tell me.

Even though until now I have neglected and ignored the messages from my body, I choose to pay more attention from now on.

Recommended Uses

This technique can be used for pain management, whether it is for long-term chronic pain or injury/illness/postoperative related pain.

The more you “take note” of your body’s complaints and tap on these complaints, the less likely your body will complain. You can apply this process to all your physical complaints, starting with the loudest ones first.

Using this technique regularly may lead to pain reduction. It can also be used in a preventative manner by helping you stay in tune with your body and giving it what it needs for optimum health, whether it be better nutrition, more rest, more exercise, recovery time, letting go of certain obligations, cutting back work hours, increasing recreation time, increasing creative pursuits etc.

I would like to hear from you and your complaints. Feel free to submit your “complaints” and let me know how, if in any way, this exercise has helped you.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

EFT Cooling Tower Technique

by Angie Muccillo © 2006

This is an anger management technique I have used to successfully help clients “let off steam” safely and effectively, combining EFT with a simple visualization to help “vaporize” the energy of anger. The function of a cooling tower is to remove energy from a building. This is an interesting metaphor and can be used to remove ‘heated’ energy that can build up within us, sometimes to boiling point.

Cooling towers are specially designed chimneys used in the production of coal for electricity and is here used as a metaphor for the rise and release of “heated” angry energy and emotions, which boil inside and cause us to eventually loose our cool, most often inappropriately and to the detriment of others and ourselves. Here is an example of a treatment, where the client went from “steaming to cool” in 4 rounds.

Sue described an incident where months ago her 8 year-old son was bullied and beaten up by a group of older boys in a toilet block at school. At the time upon hearing of the incident Sue, in her anger and rage, stormed down to the school to literally “go after” the boys who had harmed her son. She was angry with the school for allowing this to happen and felt that ‘not enough was being done’ about it. She hurled abuse at the teachers and literally ‘went off’ at anyone who crossed her path. Since the incident Sue’s son developed a fear of public toilets, separation anxiety and went from being a bright, outgoing, popular child to a withdrawn frightened one who feared going anywhere without his mother, including school. Sue came to see me about getting help for her son, but became visibly and increasingly distressed as she “told the story”.

In describing the incident she clearly harbored a great deal of angst toward her son’s attackers and the school and was talking about going back to the school again to ‘have her say’ in much the same fashion as she did before. As she was already “in the moment”, in this case, instead of applying EFT in the ‘classic’ fashion of using set up phrases, I asked Sue if I could start tapping on her, while she was feeling upset.

As I tapped the shortcut points in a continuous manner, I asked Sue to close her eyes and visualize what she would ‘do’ to those boys if she could “get her hands on them”. I asked her to send those thoughts and images up through her head as though she was releasing steam through a chimney. She started shaking and crying and literally steaming as she ‘imagined’ what she would do to them ‘if she could’. After about 4 rounds she stopped, opened her eyes and with absolute amazement said, “it’s stopped, it just stopped, it’s gone”, meaning her intense anger and feelings of vengeance. She was utterly surprised.

I asked her if she was willing to describe what happened in her mind. She said at first she saw a gun appear vividly but then the image simply vanished and she just “snapped out of it”. You could see the relief on her face and in her body, which had collapsed back into the chair. She realized how destructive carrying this kind of anger was and how different she felt without it. She had cooled right down within moments. She said the image of steam rising from her head really helped her to let go. In her newfound “coolness” she started speaking differently about the whole situation and started coming up with new ideas and insights about how to handle the problem. Needless to say they were far more diplomatic than using weaponry! Instead of feeling “at war” with her son’s attackers and the school, she was able to “put down her guns” (her fears, vengeance, deep sense of injustice and defensive rage) and start making decisions from a place of calm, rather than the previous place of rage. She acknowledged that her anger only really made the situation worse and achieved nothing in the way of resolution. She was glad to be free of it.

In a separate session with her son we used the same technique to release his anger towards the boys who had hurt and humiliated him. Coincidently he brought up the same visual of a gun. This is the sort of deep emotional disturbances our children do not need to hold onto and carry into adulthood. We are incredibly fortunate to have EFT. EFT helped resolve all his issues as well and he is back to being confident and stress free, no longer showing any of his previous symptoms.

How To Apply the Cooling Tower Technique

Whenever you are “heated up” about something and feel like you could “blow your stack”, use EFT to take the heat out of it and cool down safely by diffusing the anger before it creates bigger problems. Spend time doing EFT on these boiling issues, changing the path from one of potential destruction to one of greater peace and calm. The trick is to unleash in your mind, without holding back, all the thoughts and actions that you are tempted to take. Sometimes we just carry these inside us letting ourselves get to a boiling point then exploding, while other time we explode first and think later, by then it’s often too late and at best we hurt our loved ones or at worst we may be led to commit a crime, all of which could have been avoided with some simple tapping to let off the excess steam (energy).

1. Think of a problem in your life that is causing you to be at “war with” somebody or, something in your life that you are “heated up” about. Is there a person or group of people who you “could kill” for something they’re done towards you or someone else that leaves you feeling enraged. Use a “Heat-o-meter” to measure how heated up about the issue, with 0 being “completely cool” to 10 being “100% steaming/fuming

2. Close your eyes and allow yourself to focus on the scene in your mind’s eye and imagine what you would ‘do’ to get back, get even, settle the score etc. Say what you really feel compelled to say or compelled to do to the other person or person’s.

3. While letting the ‘heat’ rise up, tap continuously and imagine sending those thoughts and images up through your head as though you are releasing steam through a chimney. Tap until all those images have evaporated like steam.

Using EFT as a “weapon” to end those inner and outer wars creates a deep sense of personal peace despite the external circumstances that then translates into peace at home, work and in the community. We can all contribute to world peace simply by systematically letting off steam with EFT. We do have the power. It is at our fingertips!

On a personal note my father suffered high blood pressure and developed a brain tumor before he died of a stroke. He carried a lot of anger around a lot of his life and I personally believe this contributed enormously to his dis-ease. Coincidently, when he migrated to Australia in the 50’s, Dad worked as a laborer in the construction of the cooling towers in the coal-mining town that I grew up in, so dedicate this technique to him.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
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EFT Gratitude Protocol

by © Angie Muccillo 2007

Here’s a simple little EFT protocol with the potential to increase EFT’s effectiveness.

Are you grateful to EFT? I definitely am. I am grateful not only for the many positive effects it has had on my life personally, but also the many wondrous changes and healing I see in others as a result of using EFT. I think most people who have used EFT and achieved some degree of success with their personal and emotional issues, have felt and expressed gratitude for what EFT has done for them. We have many documented accounts of these on the EFT website and in our clinics and offices worldwide.

In her “Gratitude Diet” article, Carol Tuttle recommends we tap on everything we are grateful for in our lives, as a way of focusing on what we have or want to attract more of. So I thought why not add EFT to that list?! In essence, if we want to attract more success with our use of EFT, let’s express our gratitude for it, like anything else. Carol also states “gratitude is one of the highest states of emotion we can experience.” If we tap on our gratitude for EFT, we are focusing on our highest thoughts of EFT and placing our attention and thoughts on what we are grateful that EFT is doing for us. In other words we use the EFT affirmation to affirm EFT!

Tap on Gratitude for EFT

The idea is simply to use the EFT Gratitude Protocol at the end (or beginning) of a tapping session with a round or two of statements focused on our gratitude towards EFT. I think giving thanks to EFT is a kind of pleasant and harmonious way to open or close a tapping session whether it is with a practitioner or on your own. Whether the session has completely resolved your issues or not, inserting the Gratitude Protocol at the end, may set a positive scene for future tapping and perhaps help build a bridge to the next session. I would also recommend using the Gratitude Protocol routinely as a daily or homework exercise or when you feel “stuck”.

EFT Gratitude Statements:

Tap the EFT points while repeating each statement:

I am deeply and completely grateful for EFT

I am deeply and completely grateful for releasing these emotions with EFT

I am deeply and completely grateful for the ease with which EFT is helping me to release my fears, phobia’s, and traumatic memories etc

I am deeply and completely grateful to EFT for relieving my back/shoulder pain etc

I am deeply and completely grateful for the ease with which EFT is helping me to release my addictions

I am deeply and completely grateful I have EFT to help me release my pain and suffering

I am deeply and completely grateful for the ease with which EFT works for me each and every time

I am deeply and completely grateful I have a tool to help me calm down whenever I need it

I am deeply and completely grateful for the positive changes EFT has helped me make in my life

I am deeply and completely grateful for the many benefits I am receiving from using EFT daily

I am deeply and completely grateful for the positive impact EFT is having on my life and those around me

I am deeply and completely grateful for the peace and calm EFT has brought into my life

I am deeply and completely grateful to EFT for improving the quality of my life

I am deeply and completely grateful I have discovered this wonderful tool!

These are just a few suggestions. I am sure there’s a lot of gratitude out there for EFT! Let’s hear it and share it.

As a general rule write your statements as though your EFT goals have already been achieved.

This protocol may also be useful when EFT “doesn’t appear to be working” or you feel “stuck” or frustrated. Whilst there are many one minute wonders in EFT, as we know, some issues do take time to break down and in the process we may find ourselves getting frustrated, overwhelmed even unappreciative and forgetful of the progress we have actually made. We can use this protocol to help break free from some of these barriers by switching our thinking to what we are grateful for instead.

We can use the Choices Method to install the gratitude statements.

Example set ups:

“Even though EFT isn’t working for me on (this issue), I choose to be grateful to EFT for helping me release these emotions and for all the healing I have achieved so far”

“Even though I don’t get the same results as XXX, I choose to be grateful I have a tool to help me calm down whenever I need it”

“Even though I’m sick of tapping and don’t seem to be getting anywhere, I am grateful for the positive changes EFT has helped me make in my life”

What are you grateful for when it comes to EFT? Write your list of gratitude statements and tap on them regularly. Send me your gratitude statements if you wish. I would love to combine all our gratitude statements in one big growing “glowing” list of gratitude for EFT.

Spreading EFT with love and gratitude!

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmailcom

Daily EFT Exercise for Relaxation and Stress Management

by © Angie Muccillo 2007

Focus & Tap – Powerful Relaxation Exercise For Mind & Body

EFT is an ideal tool for managing everyday stress. Use this simple exercise everyday to help deal with overwhelm or to simply clear out the day’s stresses. Doing this exercise on a regular basis will help you relax and perform at your best.

“There are more solutions to be found in calmness than in turmoil”

Follow these simple steps everyday and observe the changes in your mind and body.

Click here to learn how to locate the EFT tapping points.

Step 1: FOCUS your mind on a specific problem, worry or challenge that you are currently experiencing. It may be an issue at work, home or in a relationship. When you think about this issue you are likely to be experiencing a certain level emotional and physical discomfort. Rate the level of distress or discomfort on a scale of 0-10. (0=no discomfort at all 10 =extreme stress/discomfort) Simply make a mental note of the number or write it down along with the specific issue you are focused on (optional).

Step 2: TAP continuously on the EFT Tapping Points while maintaining mental focus on your issue. Stay tuned into the issue or problem and allow the scenarios to play out in your mind, until you feel ‘done’.

Step 3: OBSERVE your emotional and physical state after tapping. Examine your thoughts, feelings and physical sensations. Do you feel different? Do you have any new insights? Has your perspective changed? Do you feel physically different? Are you buzzing with ideas? Do you feel more peaceful, calm and relaxed?

Step 4: USE THIS TECHNIQUE DAILY and apply it to any problem in your life. You will gradually notice yourself becoming more and more calm, centered and balanced in your everyday life.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

Using EFT For Sleep Problems During Pregnancy

by Angie Muccillo ©2006

Why Is Sleeping Sometimes Difficult During Pregnancy?

The hormonal changes and physical discomforts associated with pregnancy can affect a pregnant woman’s quality of sleep. Each trimester of pregnancy brings its own unique sleep challenges. According to the National Sleep Foundation, the following are the most common sleep changes that may occur in each trimester:

First Trimester

• Frequent waking due to an increased need to go to the bathroom.
• Disruptions in sleep as a result of physical and emotional stress associated with pregnancy.
• Increased daytime sleepiness.

Second Trimester

Sleep during the second trimester improves for many women since nighttime urination becomes less of an issue as the growing fetus reduces pressure on the bladder by moving above it. Still the quality of sleep may remain poor as a result of the growing baby and emotional stress associated with pregnancy.

Third Trimester

You are likely to experience the most sleep problems during this trimester as a result of the following:

Discomfort due to your growing belly.
Heartburn, leg cramps, and sinus congestion
Frequent nighttime urination returns, as the baby’s position changes to put pressure on the bladder once again.

Source: http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=47533

Your sleep problems may have other causes as well. Many pregnant women report that their dreams become more vivid than usual, and some even experience nightmares. Stress can interfere with sleep, too. Maybe you’re worried about your baby’s health, anxious about your abilities as a parent, or feeling nervous about the delivery itself. All of these feelings are normal, but they may keep you (and your partner) up at night.

Using EFT for Sleep Problems During Pregnancy

In her article “Tired Of Not Being Able To Sleep – The EFT Solution”, Dr. Patricia Carrington acknowledges that “a growing number of people who have learned the EFT technique find it is incredibly useful in helping them to sleep. There are a number of ways EFT can be used to induce pleasant sleep”

EFT can help with the physical and emotional stress associated with pregnancy. EFT can be used to tap on your worries, fears, anxieties and physical problems that may be interfering with your ability to sleep.

Stimulating the EFT points will help to soothe your stressed out nervous system and provide a sedative and calming effect helping you to fall asleep naturally.

If you have not learnt how to perform EFT simply follow the instructions below to apply the technique.

You can use the following EFT tapping scripts every night before going to bed, when you are having difficulty falling asleep or if you wake up during the night. Instead of lying there not being able to sleep, with thoughts running uncontrollably through your mind, you now have a simple and natural strategy you can apply to effectively induce sleep.

Step-By-Step Tapping Instructions For Sleep Problems

If you are not familiar with the EFT Tapping Points click here for the EFT diagram. Use this as a guide to help you locate and learn the points to tap on before you begin.

The first few rounds of tapping will focus on the general problem of inability to sleep.

Step 1: EFT Set Up Statement

While rubbing the “Tender Spot” repeat the following statements:

“Even though I can’t get to sleep I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though I have too many worries, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though I feel anxious and stressed, I deeply and completely accept myself

“Even though I am uncomfortable I deeply and completely accept myself.”

Step 2: The EFT Sequence (Sleep Tapping Script)

Tap each of the points while repeating the following statements at each point:

Eyebrow (EB): I can’t sleep

Side Of the Eye (SE): I have too many worries

Under the Eye (UE): I’m too stressed

Under the Nose (UN): I feel uncomfortable

Chin (CH): I’m too anxious

Collarbone (CB): I have too many worries

Under the Arm (UA): I’m too stressed

Under the Breast (UB): I feel uncomfortable

Top of the Head: TH: I can’t sleep

Take a deep breath and continue..

Eyebrow (EB): I can’t sleep

Side Of the Eye (SE): I have too many worries

Under the Eye (UE): I’m too stressed

Under the Nose (UN): I feel uncomfortable

Chin (CH): I can’t sleep

Collarbone (CB): I have too many worries

Under the Arm (UA): I’m too stressed

Under the Breast (UB): I feel uncomfortable

Top of the Head: TH: I can’t sleep

Take a deep breath and continue..

Eyebrow (EB): I can’t sleep

Side Of the Eye (SE): I have too many worries

Under the Eye (UE): I’m too stressed

Under the Nose (UN): I feel uncomfortable

Chin (CH): I can’t sleep

Collarbone (CB): I have too many worries

Under the Arm (UA): I’m too stressed

Under the Breast (UB): I feel uncomfortable

Top of the Head: TH: I can’t sleep

Take a deep breath and continue..

Eyebrow (EB): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Side Of the Eye (SE): My body is relaxing now

Under the Eye (UE): I’m allowing myself to go to sleep

Under the Nose (UN): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Chin (CH): I choose to release my worries now

Collarbone (CB): My body is relaxing now

Under the Arm (UA): I am allowing myself to go to sleep

Under the Breast (UB): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Top of the Head: TH: I’m allowing myself to go to sleep

Take a deep breath and continue..

Eyebrow (EB): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Side Of the Eye (SE): My body is relaxing now

Under the Eye (UE): I’m allowing myself to go to sleep

Under the Nose (UN): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Chin (CH): I choose to release my worries now

Collarbone (CB): My body is relaxing now

Under the Arm (UA): I am allowing myself to go to sleep

Under the Breast (UB): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Top of the Head: TH: I’m allowing myself to go to sleep

Take a deep breath and continue..

Eyebrow (EB): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Side Of the Eye (SE): My body is relaxing now

Under the Eye (UE): I’m allowing myself to go to sleep

Under the Nose (UN): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Chin (CH): I choose to release my worries now

Collarbone (CB): My body is relaxing now

Under the Arm (UA): I am allowing myself to go to sleep

Under the Breast (UB): I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Top of the Head: (TH): I’m allowing myself to go to sleep

Take a deep breath and assess how you are feeling. Continue with this exercise for about 5 – 10 minutes. Some people fall asleep in the middle of tapping. If so, great! If not, below are more statements you can pick and choose from, dependant on your particular situation. Create your own statements using the formula you have just learnt.

Step 3: Getting More Specific

Repeat the above process to:

1) Tap on Your Anxieties Fears & Worries

“Even though I’m anxious about (worried that, etc., fill in whatever it is that worries you), I choose to be calm and relaxed”

Examples:

Even though I’m worried about my baby I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I’m worried about how we’re going to pay the bills I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though everything worries me I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I’m worried about the results of the tests I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I don’t have enough help and support I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I’m exhausted during the day because I can’t sleep at night, I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I’m too physically exhausted to cope with all my day-to-day demands, I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I don’t have any time to myself, I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I cry all the time, I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Write down your own list of anxieties, fears and worries

2) Tap on Your Anger

“Even though I’m angry (fill in with, who or what you are angry about), I choose to stay calm and relaxed”

Examples:

Even though I’m too angry to sleep, I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I’m furious with the hospital/doctor/nurse, I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I’m angry with myself for_____, I choose to stay calm and relaxed

Even though I loose my patience with_______, I choose to stay calm and relaxed

3) Tap on Your Physical Discomforts

“Even though I have (fill in whatever physical discomfort you are experiencing), I deeply and completely love and accept my body

Examples:

Even though I have these leg cramps I deeply and completely love and accept my body

Even though I have to urinate so often I deeply and completely love and accept my body

Even though I have an active baby I deeply and completely love and accept my body

Even though I have difficulties turning over in bed I deeply and completely love and accept my body

Even though I am short of breath I deeply and completely love and accept my body

Even though I have heartburn I deeply and completely love and accept my body

Even though I have this backache I deeply and completely love and accept my body

3) Tap on Your Nightmares

If you wake up from a nightmare feeling upset, traumatized, scared and worried, simply start tapping on the points. Your body is flooded with the chemicals of fight or flight, and your energy system is disrupted effecting you ability to go back to sleep. Tapping a few rounds of EFT with settle your emotions and help to release the awful feelings you may experiencing. You don’t need to repeat any statements when you do this. Simply tap while you feel upset until you fell calm again.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Dip Illustrative Photography – Fine Art/Photjournalism)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com