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EFT For Whiplash

August 26, 2008 Comments off

by Rod Sherwin © 2008 http://www.tap4health.com/

At the recent Mind Body Spirit Festival (in Melbourne) I helped four different people with Whiplash. Whiplash is an injury caused when the head snaps forward and then back again and is most often associated with a rear-end collision in a motor vehicle.

Symptoms reported by sufferers of Whiplash include: pain and aching to the neck and back, referred pain to the shoulders, sensory disturbance (such as pins and needles) to the arms & legs and headaches.

I treated people with Whiplash from 30 years ago to 2 days ago. One person had experienced a head ache for 10 years after a car accident. For each person, using 5-10 minutes of EFT, they were able to completely relieve the neck and back pain associated with the whiplash.

If you have ever experienced a car accident or similar trauma to neck and spine be sure to apply EFT to the memory of the accident even if you have no obvious symptoms. Your body remembers the trauma and may still be compensating. Here’s an EFT sequence that can get you started.

Karate Chop: “Even though I have this pain in my neck and back caused by whiplash, I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though my body remembers the trauma of the accident regardless of how long ago it was, I’m ready to release it now. I ask my body to release and heal the trauma that is causing this neck and back pain, allowing myself to heal 100% even better than before.”

Eyebrow (EB): “This whiplash pain in my neck”
Side of the eye (SE): “This whiplash pain and my body’s memory of the accident”
Under the eye (UE): “All the whiplash trauma in my body”
Under the nose (UN): “This whiplash pain in my neck”
Chin (CH): “This whiplash pain in my neck”
Collarbone (CB): “The whiplash pain in my back and neck”
Under the arm (UA): “This whiplash pain in my neck, the headaches, the backaches, allowing myself to heal”
Under the breast (UB): “I’m ready to forgive myself for any thing I did to contribute to this whiplash, and open to one day forgiving anyone else who had anything to do with this whiplash”

After a few rounds, reassess your pain and range of movement, taking care of your own physical wellbeing. Usually, after a few rounds, the pain will move or change in some way. Continue chasing the pain, and come up with a new focusing phrase for the new location of the pain and continue applying EFT until there is no trace left.

This article appeared in Rod Sherwin’s Tap For Health Newsletter. To sign up for his newsletter visit http://www.tap4health.com/

Rod Sherwin is an Energy Therapist, Speaker, and Consultant who helps you transform the quality of your life using breakthrough techniques from the emerging field of Energy Psychology including the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Explore 100s of FREE articles about applying EFT to stress, fear, money, relationships, weight loss, chronic pain, and depression at www.tap4health.com


EFT Set Ups For Weight Loss

August 25, 2008 Comments off

How Can EFT Help with Weight Loss and Management?

EFT directly targets the emotional causes of overeating and leads to permanent weight loss. Emotional factors are at the core of many problems and issues associated with losing and maintaining a healthy weight. EFT offers you a simple tool to conquer the emotional aspects that may be sabotaging your efforts to lose weight. EFT allows you to target and treat the underlying causes of being overweight—the anxiety, stress and conflicts that drive you to overeat or eat poorly in the first place. EFT can be used in a number of ways to reduce the intensity of emotions and anxiety that lead to overeating or unhealthy eating patterns. EFT can be applied to any of the numerous challenges people face when trying to lose and/or maintain a healthy weight.

EFT helps you to lose weight by reducing food cravings, eliminating emotional triggers to overeating, improving body image and neutralizing future social and environmental relapse triggers.

EFT will enhance the success of any weight loss method or plan you are following and will help you remain motivated and focused on your goals. Unless the underlying emotional causes of overeating or poor eating habits are addressed, weight loss and maintenance may always be a struggle.

One of the greatest benefits of using EFT is that it helps to re-program your mind and nervous system to adopt an entirely different and more healthy attitude towards food. Using willpower to change behavioral patterns around food and eating can be difficult to sustain. With the proper use of EFT, no willpower is required, your mind and body will automatically make positive changes that are in line with your goals.

EFT can be used to target and address:

  • Immediate cravings
  • Compulsive overeating
  • Daily stress and emotional triggers
  • Poor eating habits and patterns
  • Limiting beliefs about your ability to lose weight
  • Body image, confidence and self esteem
  • Fear of the failure and relapse
  • Feelings of frustration, guilt, procrastination, disappointment etc

Click here for article on using EFT for food cravings

Excerpt from EFT Weight Loss Workshop Manual by Angie Muccillo 2007

Below is a  list of EFT set up phrases related to different issues, thoughts and feelings around weight loss. This guide will help you identify and tap on your own particular issues.

Tapping Instructions

Go through the list and tick the statements in bold that feel TRUE to you, even if only slightly true. Next to each statement you tick, write a truth rating, where “10” means 100% TRUE and “1” means on slightly TRUE. Space is provided to fill in the “additional phrases” thoughts or feelings that may come up for you or that relate more specifically to the way you feel.

Tap on each statement you have ticked and added, using the EFT Shortcut Method. If other feelings, emotions or memories come up during the rounds of tapping, continue to tap until until each of these are neutralized.

Problem: “I Have Too Much Weight To Lose”

When a task (like losing weight) seems “too big”, our chances of giving up becomes greater and our ability to continue towards our goal weight diminishes. To overcome this and help you maintain your focus and motivation, start with these set up phrases that address feelings of discouragement, anger, fear and worry about how you will lose the weight you have set out to lose.

  • Even though I feel discouraged by how much weight I need to lose, I choose to feel inspired now. Rating…
  • Even though I’m scared I won’t be able to lose all this weight and keep it off for good, I choose to have faith in my ability. Rating…
  • Even though I feel angry that I have to lose this weight, I choose to soothe myself in new ways. Rating…
  • Even though I resent having to lose this weight, I choose to accept myself completely. Rating…

Additional phrases that describe how you feel about reaching your goal weight

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Problem: Sticking to a Menu Plan

Your ability to stick your menu plan is crucial to your success. These set up phrases relate to issues and difficulties associated with sticking to and following and an eating plan.

  • Even though I have trouble sticking to my eating plan, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I don’t have time to eat properly, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I don’t like having to stick to a plan, I’d rather eat what I like when I like, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior.
  • Even though it takes too much effort to follow an eating plan, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I get bored following an eating plan, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I’m worried there’s not enough food on the menu and I’ll be too hungry, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I don’t want to give up my favorite foods, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I don’t have the time or energy to organize myself properly, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…

Additional phrases that describe why you find it difficult to stick to the menu plan

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Problem: Food Issues & Cravings

  • Even though I’m obsessed with food, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I overeat, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I’m a food addict, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I’m a sugar addict, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I crave sweets at night, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I have a huge appetite, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I’m a closet eater, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I binge at night, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I have an urge to eat whenever I SMELL food, I I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I have a craving whenever I SEE food, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I eat when I’m bored, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I eat when I’m angry, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I eat when I’m lonely, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I eat when I’m sad, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I eat when I’m frustrated, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I overeat to hurt myself, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I eat to avoid my feelings, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I use food to soothe/comfort myself, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I overeat to hide/protect myself, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I binge because I think I’m worthless, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I overeat because I don’t love myself, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I’m anxious when I sit down to eat, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I associate food with fighting, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I associate food with my mother’s love, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I feel unsafe without food, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I eat to feel better, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though it’s not safe for me to lose weight, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though it’s not safe for others if I lose weight, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though, I don’t feel supported by my family members, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…

Additional phrases that describe any food issues you have

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Problem: Guilt & Shame

  • Even though I hate myself for overeating, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I feel guilty when I overeat, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I beat myself up when I eat the wrong foods, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I feel guilty about being overweight, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I’m embarrassed by my weight I deeply and completely accept myself. Rating…

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Problem: Weight Plateau

Apart from the physical reasons why our weight may plateau, underlying psychological issues may also be responsible. These set ups are designed to release any blocks and challenge your body weight ‘comfort zone’.

  • Even though my weight has reached a plateau, I deeply and completely accept myself and choose to feel comfortable at my goal weight. Rating…
  • Even though I don’t feel comfortable weighing less than ……., I deeply and completely accept myself and choose to feel comfortable at my goal weight. Rating…
  • Even though I have a block to weighing less than……, I deeply and completely accept myself and choose to feel comfortable at my goal weight. Rating…
  • Even though I sabotage myself whenever I weigh less than……., I deeply and completely accept myself and choose to feel comfortable at my goal weight. Rating…
  • Even though (this will happen…..) if I weigh less than……., I deeply and completely accept myself and choose to feel comfortable at my goal weight. Rating…

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Problem: Slow Metabolism

  • Even though my metabolism is too slow, I deeply and completely accept myself.
  • Even though I have trouble increasing my metabolism, I deeply and completely accept myself.
  • Even though I have a slow metabolism, I choose to release and repair everything that slows my body down

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Problem: Self Esteem

  • Even though I don’t deserve to be happy with my body, I deeply and completely accept myself and my behavior. Rating…
  • Even though I believe I don’t deserve to be thin, I choose to feel worthy now. Rating…

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Getting results!

Good luck and be persistent with daily tapping. You will notice that you begin to “forget” about eating binges and begin to be engaged in other activities other than secretive eating or food shopping. The weight will begin to come off as the underlying issues are addressed and the basics of symptomatic behavior are tapped away.

Tip: Tap the index finger point and say, “I forgive myself for overeating…or eating when I’m not hungry…or eating when I’m angry…etc..”

Contact me if you have any questions or would like to book an individual EFT weight loss consultation.

Contact me if you would like to arrange an EFT Weight Loss Workshop for your group.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

EFT for Romantic Rejection, Relationship Breakups and “Love Pain”

August 24, 2008 Comments off

by Robert Elias Najemy

One of our most devastating emotional experiences is the loss of a loved one. Dr. Roger Callahan the founder of Thought Field Therapy (on which EFT is based) has called this “love pain” and has dedicated a whole book and video to the subject.

Employing EFT on Romantic Rejection

Here is a list of some of the emotions we might feel when someone leaves us. Below each emotion we present some possible set up phrases. These lists as always are there to guide you and never to limit you. There are many other possibilities.

1. Rejection (demeaned, worthless) because he/she does not want to be with me.

A. Even though I feel rejected (demeaned, worthless) because (name of person)____ left me, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I felt rejected (demeaned, worthless) because (name of person)____ left me, I now feel (realize, experience) my self-worth as a unique being without him/her.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this feeling of rejected (being demeaned, worthlessness).

C. Reminder Phrase = Rejected ( demeaned, worthlessness) because _____ left.

2. Fear of continuing life without this person.

A. Even though I fear continuing life alone without (name of person)____ , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now I feared continuing life alone without (name of person)____ , I now feel (realize, experience) self-confidence and powerfully capable of dealing with life.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear of dealing with life.

C. Reminder Phrase = Fear of dealing with life (without ______).

3. Fear (shame) of what others will think about me now that he/she has left.

A. Even though I fear what others will think because (name of person)____ left me, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now I feared what others would think because (name of person)____ left me , I now feel (realize, experience) my self-worth as a unique being, regardless of what they think.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear of what they think.

C. Reminder Phrase = Fear of what they think.

4. Fear that I will not find anyone else to share my life with.

A. Even though I fear I will not find anyone else to share my life with, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now, I feared I would not find anyone else to share my life with, I now am confident that I deserve and will attract the perfect being for me.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear of not finding someone else.

C. Reminder Phrase = Fear of not finding someone else.

5. Hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) of not having this person to hold, share, make love to, communicate with, etc.

A. Even though I feel hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) because I do not have (name of person)____ to hold (share, make love to, communicate with etc. ? be specific), I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now I felt I hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) because I do not have (name of person)____ to hold (share, make love to communicate with etc. ? be specific), I now experience the fullness of my being and of my life and lovingly connect with those around me.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear o Hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) because I do not have (name of person)____ to hold (share, make love to communicate with etc. ? be specific),

C. Reminder Phrase = Hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) because I do not have (name of person)____ to hold (share, make love to communicate with etc. ? be specific),

6. Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) that he/she is unjustly harming, betraying, hurting us in this way.

A. Even though I feel Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ has behaved unjustly, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now I felt Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ has behaved unjustly, I now have faith in the wisdom of what life gives me for my growth process.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from feeling Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ has behaved unjustly.

C. Reminder Phrase = Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ has behaved unjustly.

7. Guilt (self-rejection) because I feel that I am to blame for his/her leaving.

A. Even though I feel guilt (self-rejection) because (name of person)____ left me , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now I felt guilt (self-rejection) because (name of person)____ left me, I now forgive and love myself, realizing that I have done and will do my best.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from Guilt (self-rejection) because (name of person)____ left me.

C. Reminder Phrase = Guilt (self-rejection) because (name of person)____ left me.

8. Jealousy if (because) he/she is with someone else

A. Even though I feel jealous because (name of person)____ is with someone else , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now I felt jealous because (name of person)____ is with someone else, I now feel the fullness of my being trust that life gives me exactly what I need for my growth process (self-actualization).

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from feeling jealousy because (name of person)____ is with someone else.

C. Reminder Phrase = Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ left me.

9. Anger (hate, revenge) because he/she has caused now so much pain.

A. Even though I feel anger (hate, revenge) because (name of person)____ left me (is with someone else) , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now I felt anger (hate, revenge) because (name of person)____ left me (is with someone else), I now realize that I am perfectly capable of being happy and fulfilled without him/her.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from feeling anger (hate, revenge) because (name of person)____ left me (is with someone else).

C. Reminder Phrase = Anger (hate, revenge) because (name of person)____ left me (is with someone else).

10. Depression (disillusionment, discouragement) that I cannot have what I want and cannot do anything about it.

A. Even though I feel depressed (disillusioned, discouraged) because I cannot be with (name of person)____ , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
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Even though until now I felt depressed (disillusioned, discouraged) because I could not be with (name of person)____ , I now realize (feel, experience) that I have the power to create the life I want.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from feeling depressed (disillusioned, discouraged) because I cannot be with (name of person)____.

C. Reminder Phrase = Depressed (disillusioned, discouraged) because I cannot be with (name of person)____

It should not take long to work through all of the above. The pain which often takes months, and for some people, years, can be removed in a week or less. We help no one by feeling all these emotions.

Better to get on with our lives.

Below are some thoughts about what we can gain from such a situation.

LEARNING FROM A RELATIONSHIP BREAKDOWN

A divorce, separation or, in general, any loss of an important relationship is a painful experience. . Such pain can seriously diminish our peace and happiness.  If we are thinking of separating, there are many lessons we need to examine before we can come to the conclusion that we must separate from someone. But if the other leaves us or this separation has already happened, we might be able to benefit from the following.

1. Our first lesson is to examine our behavior to see how we might have contributed to the problem. Only in this way can we create a new healthy relationship if we chose to.

In relation to this we might want to examine the following:

a. We may have been criticizing, complaining, rejecting or otherwise causing the other to feel unaccepted.
b. We may have been seeking continual affirmation in ways that may have been tiring for the other.
c. Our fears may have been causing us to be over sensitive and annoying.
d. Perhaps we were playing games of power, who is right or who is more successful.
e. We might have been playing roles such as the child, the parent, the savior, the holy one, the rebel, the teacher or some other role which may have affected the other?s behavior.
f. We may have guilt feelings that were making us vulnerable to the other?s words or behaviors.
g. Perhaps we were not communicating our needs clearly and effectively as an adult and were suppressing ourselves or complaining, criticizing or threatening.
h. We might have been projecting onto the other our childhood or other experiences.
i. The other might have been reflecting back to us our lack of self-esteem or self-respect.
j. We may have attachments that were coming between us.
k. We may have inner conflicts, which were reflecting back to us from the other.

2. We may need to learn to love the other in spite of his or her behavior, regardless of whether we stay with that person or not.

3. We can discover that we can live without this person and that happiness, security and love are internal states that are always within us, if only we allow ourselves to experience them.

4. We can use this opportunity to develop greater inner strength so as to feel confident and able to face whatever may come to us in the game of life.

5. Most of us will need to change our self-image. We need now to learn to accept, love and respect ourselves more, so that we do not create the same problem in our next relationship or in life in general.

6. By directing our energies in a spiritual direction and developing a relationship with God – the Universal Being, we are no longer so vulnerable or so dependent on others for our feelings of security and self-worth.

7. We may also need to learn that the other’s decision to leave may not be a rejection at all. He or she may love and respect us dearly but be forced by other needs to seek happiness elsewhere.

Our lessons might be separated into five categories:

1. We might need to learn to communicate more effectively, assertively and lovingly.

2. Perhaps we need to let go of some attachments, which are increasing our conflicts with others and diminishing our happiness.

3. Examine our behaviors that might be annoying the other.

4. Free ourselves from subconscious programmings, which limit our self-esteem and ability to attract the behaviors that we deserve.

5. Develop inner feelings of security, self worth and freedom.

Once our happiness, security and love have become internalized, we can experience unconditional love.

Although we need to make every possible step to heal our relationships, if and when a relationship breaks down, there is still much we can learn.

Robert Elias Najemy is the author The Psychology of Happiness available at  http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/psychofhappiness.html.

Breathe Easier! EFT Constricted Breathing Exercise

August 24, 2008 Comments off

Adapted by Angie Muccillo

In this fast paced world our breathing can become extremely shallow, especially when we are stressed or literally don’t stop to take a breath because we are so frantic and busy, trying to cope with the pressures of life.

TRY THIS EXERCISE to promote deeper breathing, improve lung capacity, increase oxygen uptake in the body, reduce anxiety and overwhelm, increase energy levels & reduce fatigue. Gary Craig first described the Constricted Breathing Technique in his DVD set EFT-Beyond the Basics.

Step 1:

Take three deep breaths. On the third breath, judge on a scale of 0-10 (where 0 means you can’t breathe at all and 10 is the deepest breath you could possibly take), how deep are you breathing right now? Make a note of your number…

Step 2:

Starting at the karate chop point, tap with index and finger of the opposite hand, continuously on this point whilst repeating each statement out loud or in your mind:

“Even though I have this constricted breathing, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though I have this constricted breathing, I choose to breathe deeply.”

“Even though I have this constricted breathing, I ask my body to remember how to breathe deeply.”

“Even though I have this constricted breathing, I ask my lungs to open up”

Step 3:

Tap or rub each treatment point about 5-7 times whilst repeating the following phrases. Repeat 2-3 rounds

EB: “This constricted breathing”
SE: “This constricted breathing”
UE: “This constricted breathing”
UN: “This constricted breathing”
CH: “This constricted breathing”
CB: “I ask my lungs to open up”
UA: “I remember how to breathe deeply”
UB: “I choose to breathe deeply”

Step 4:

Return to the karate chop point, tap continuously while repeating the following statements aloud:

“Even though I still have some of this constricted breathing, I ask my body to remember how to breathe deeply.”

“Even though I still have some of this constricted breathing, I ask my breathing muscles to relax and breathe deeply.”

“Even though I still have some of this constricted breathing, I choose to inhale deeply.”

Step 5:

Tap or rub each treatment point about 5-7 times whilst repeating the following phrases. Repeat 2-3 cycles

EB: “Remaining constricted breathing”
SE: “Remaining constricted breathing”
UE: “Remaining constricted breathing”
UN: “Remaining constricted breathing”
CH: “Remaining constricted breathing”
CB: “I remember how to breathe deeply”
UA: “I choose to inhale deeply.”
UB: “My breathing muscles are completely relaxed”

Step 6:

Take a deep breath and really sigh on the out breath…. On a scale of 0-10, how deep are you breathing right now? Have you noticed any changes? Did the air seem to flow in and out more smoothly, with less effort? Did you feel more relaxed and less anxious or worried?

Sometimes breathing difficulties have an underlying emotional cause. If emotional issues surface such as sadness or anxiety, just keep tapping on these points until you feel the intensity of the emotion subside. Doing this will help you release it within a few minutes of tapping, if not completely, to some extent.

Combine this exercise with the EFT Muscle Relaxant Exercise for deep relaxation.

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EFT Flexibility Exercise

August 24, 2008 Comments off

by Angie Muccillo © 2008

Improve Your Flexibility with EFT

Stacey Vornbrock, M.S., Sports Performance Pioneer, of Breakthrough Performance has been successfully using EFT  to has help elite and amateur athletes improve their Range Of Motion (ROM) as part of her injury recovery protocol. Her method is outlined in my article on EFT Pain Management Methods.

The following exercise applies EFT to areas of the body that feel restricted either due to an old injury, overuse or general lack of flexibility. Build this tapping exercise into your training routine, rehabilitation program, to warm up for playing sport or to improve overall general flexibility. You can also use this exercise in between any body work treatments such as massage, chiropractic, physiotherapy, osteopathy etc.

1. Choose a part of your body that feels tight or restricted

The restriction might be in your neck, shoulders, back, hips, legs etc. Work on one area at a time.

2. Measure the Range of Motion before tapping

If your shoulder feels restricted for example, measure its current “range of motion” by moving your arm up (back/forward/side) as far as feels comfortable or until you meet resistance/pain. Observe how far it goes. Give the restriction a rating out of 10 with 10 being completely restricted.

Click here for the EFT tapping points to use with exercise.

3. Start tapping the karate chop and repeat the following statements:

Even though I have this restricted flexibility in my (neck/shoulder/hips/hamstring/calf) I accept myself

Even though I have this restricted flexibility in my (neck/shoulder/hips/hamstring/calf) I choose to release it along with any stored memories or emotions

Even though I have this restricted flexibility in my (neck/shoulder/hips/hamstring/calf) I forgive myself and anyone else I may blame for causing this restriction

Use the following reminder phrase: restricted flexibility in my …………….. (for 2 or more rounds)

4. Measure Range of Motion again

Again move your arm up (back/forward/side) as far as feels comfortable or until you meet resistance/pain. Observe how far it goes this time. Has your flexibility improved? Does your arm move further this time? If there is still some restriction, do another round as follows.

5. Tap for the remaining restriction

Tapping the karate chop repeat the following statements.

Even though I still have some of this restricted flexibility in my (neck/shoulder/hips/hamstring/calf) I choose to release the rest of it along with any remaining blame, stored memories or emotions.

Use the following reminder phrase: remaining restricted flexibility in my…………….(for 2 or more rounds)

Repeating this exercise often may help muscles to gradually lengthen and stay loose and relaxed. Combine this with the EFT Muscle Relaxant exercise for increasing and encouraging muscle health.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

Using EFT with Music, Memories & Emotions

August 24, 2008 Comments off

Adapted by Angie Muccillo

EFT Audio Technique

The Audio Technique is an EFT method which consists of using music (songs) as a way to “connect” with past or present negative experiences and then using the EFT tapping points to remove the charge.

The Audio Technique was created by Michel Guindon, EFT-CC, NLP, C.Ht. from Canada to complement the classic EFT method. He offers this highly useful technique for bringing up repressed emotions or core issues using music and EFT. In effect the music (songs) “stir up the emotional pot of memories that are stored in the body at the unconscious and cellular level whilst EFT gently dissolves and weakens their hold, providing resolution and relief, simply and effectively.” This is a tremendous personal healing tool that can also be used in conjuction with the EFT Personal Peace Procedure.

Anyone will benefit from using The Audio Technique mainly due to its uncanny ability to bring up repressed emotions related to events which are partially or totally out of our conscious awareness – the “fine print” on our walls, or the “Blind Spots”.

The Audio Technique a simple non-disclosure technique, where you don’t have to talk about or even be aware of the issues but instead work through them in the comfort of your own mind, guided by the musical soundtracks.

Music, Memories & Emotions

Although we rarely think about it, music has always had a powerful influence on our lives and most of our significant life experiences are linked to it in one form or another. We hear couples referring to a certain song as “their song” while others remember “the good old times” when a tune is played on the radio. Those same songs also take on different meanings depending on our life events. Following the break-up of a relationship or other painful experiences such as the loss of a loved one for example. Those very same songs often become painful reminders – re-stimulating us instantly. Most of us know of some people who have a tendency to isolate themselves and listen to music that matches their state of mind at the time. It seems to provide comfort to know that someone else (the artist, singer, etc.) has gone through something similar and makes them feel understood and validated in some way.

When we think about it, music IS emotion, it is an expression of feelings, both joyful and painful. Many love songs for instance contain themes of abandonment, pain, rejection, betrayal and hurt, both through their lyrics or musical structure. Songs are written to evoke and express emotion. When we listen to a song, our own personal meanings are attached to them. When you choose a song “to work with” you are reacting to the lyrics in your own personal way.

How To Apply The Audio Technique

Click here for the EFT tapping points

Step 1: Choose a song that stirs up any negative emotion or reminds you of a negative past or present event. You may have one or more songs that really stick out for their ability to make you feel a certain way. For instance you may feel like crying when you hear a particular song because it reminds you of a person and relationship that ended badly or caused you to fell hurt and pain. There may even be a song you simply can’t listen to because you know it will make you feel dreadful so you would normally avoid listening to it. This would be a good song to use with this technique, as it is an indication that you have unresolved and repressed emotions, which can be released safely and gently with the tapping. This will help you feel a whole lot better and resolve the issues in question without having to talk about it to anyone. Once you have chosen a song, rate the intensity of the charge on a scale of 0-10.

Step 2: Play the song allowing your emotions to surface. Listen closely to the lyrics, and feel what you have to feel. Also pay attention to where in your body you feel the emotion. Is it in your chest, throat, stomach, heart etc? This is an indication of where the block is stored in your body. Tapping will release the block from this area. Once you are “into the emotion” of the song simply tap on the EFT points continuously until the song ends. Simply listen, feel and tap. The more you feel the emotion while you tap, the greater the release.

Step 3: When the song has finished, play it again and check your emotional responses. Check the intensity of the charge on a scale of 0-10. Has anything changed? Do you still respond in the same way? Chances are the song no longer has the same “hold” on you. It’s meaning may have completed changed for you. If you still feel some emotions, for instance, if you still feel sad or a new emotion has surfaced, simply play the song again and tap continuously as you did before, then check again. Pay attention to where you feel it in your body. Is the same sensation still there or has it disappeared? Repeat this until your “energy runs clean”, that is, you can listen to the song without having ANY negative response to it. Signs that your energy has shifted may include, sighing, new insights, fatigue, yawning, and changes in physical sensations

An Example of How The Audio Technique Works

Michele recounts that “on a personal level, I’ve had a powerful issue come up (fear of being used) while listening to Heart’s “All I Wanna Do”. The story is about a married woman who picks up a man on the road, brings him to a motel and makes love to him. The real story is that she wants a child, something her husband cannot give her, so she goes to plan B – namely this man she picked up. While listening to it, I associated with the man in question and the charge went up to a “10+”. I felt shocked, angry, worthless, used, sad – the works! And what amazes me is that I still cannot relate this experience to any particular event in my life. After playing it several times while tapping, the charge went down to “0”. Now, when I listen to it, it is just another song – nothing more and I feel great.”

There are no right or wrong soundtracks – they either bring up a charge or they don’t. Simply go through your collection. Sometimes just reading the titles will often point to tracks that have “some meaning” to them. There are also music charts on the net that can help you remember tracks you used to listen to when we were younger, and these can often be downloaded with appropriate software.

The Audio Technique was designed as a complement to Classic EFT and is NOT meant to replace it by any means. While this approach has proven highly effective, specific issues may come up that require being handled by EFT as outlined in Gary Craig’s Course or by a qualified EFT Practitioner.

EFT Scripts For Self-Esteem

August 22, 2008 Comments off

By Angie Muccillo © 2008

Become Your Own “Esteem Generator”
“Give yourself an esteem bath daily”

“Just stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the I and give yourself an esteem bath. Immerse yourself in good feelings, shower yourself with adulation, bathe yourself in love. Do this everyday and you will always leave your house under a full head of esteem”

Swami Beyondanda http://www.wakeuplaughing.com

Erasing Negative Self-Scripts

In his Palace Of Possibilities Series – Using EFT to Achieve One’s Potential, Gary Craig talks in depth about the “writings on our walls” as a metaphor for our self talk; the attitudes, opinions & beliefs that we have accumulated over the years from our parents, grandparents, teachers, coaches, religion, peers, books, TV and an endless list of other “authorities” in our lives, that we use to define ourselves and our self worth. Our self-judgments are a reflection of the accumulated ‘writings on our walls’ both positive and negative.

We all have different words and statements posted on our walls. The “truths” written on your walls are different from the “truths” written on mine. However, what we may have come to believe as “truths” about ourselves may not really be “truths” at all. They are just the guidelines we have adopted for getting through life-AND-many of them are fictions.

According to Gary Craig, “our cans and cant’s are written on those walls and we obey those dictates as though they were real, without the awareness that they are simply hand-me-down beliefs that were written on our walls by others.”

These “writings” may indeed contain many “negative self scripts” which are the negative statements, negative descriptions, deprecating self remarks, negative attitudes and self-perceptions we hold to be “true” about ourselves, but which only serve to limit our success and happiness and deplete our self confidence.

So before we can become self-affirming, we need to identify and erase the negative beliefs we hold to be true about ourselves. By tapping on your “negative self-scripts” you can clear away a lifetime of accumulated and outdated negative programming and replace it with more positive, life enhancing self-scripts, creating real and dramatic changes in your level of self-confidence.

You can use EFT to identify and release all of your accumulated “negative self-scripts”.

Clearing the negative self-scripts from your “mental closet” can have major implications for your overall mental health and wellbeing.

Investing time in yourself to systematically EFT (“spring-clean”) all your negative self scripts out of existence, is an exercise in self-care and self love.

Believing in Negative Self-Scripts http://www.coping.org/growth/affirm.htm#What

The outcome of believing in negative self-scripts can result in:

Over-dependence on the approval of others: You may have an inordinate need to receive positive reinforcement or approval for what you are, how you act, and what you do from others, with an inability to be self-rewarding.

Lack of self-esteem and low self-concept: You may have an inability to believe in your own worth, inability to see any value in your own life, a poor self-image, and a lack of belief in your competency to succeed in life.

Immobilization: A rigid belief system immobilizes you from taking risks in life, prevents you from wanting to make a change, freezes your feelings into a negative pattern, and convinces you that your only role in life is to be victimized by those from whom you cannot escape.

Negativity: Your negative view of yourself leads you to see all of your world in a negative light. You begin to believe and act as a `”loser.” You see nothing in a positive light and can’t be convinced that there is a better option in life.

Pessimism: You no longer believe that you will succeed and are no longer willing to take an optimistic position as you look to your future. You can see only gloom and doom on the horizon.

Self-Pity: You begin to feel so sorry for yourself and how life has treated you that you become your best “pity party” guest. You are so lost in your self-sorrow, regrets, remorse, sympathy, and pity that you refuse to be shaken or changed. You begin to believe that no one will notice you if they can’t feel sorry for you too.

Cynicism: You take a “yes-but” cynical look at every suggestion for change in your life. You begin to doubt in the sincerity, kindness, and love of others who are trying to help you. You create a barrier of cynicism to block them out, thus convincing yourself when they leave you that they really didn’t care.

The “Guard-All Shield”: You create an invisible shield, tough for others to see or to penetrate. People will approach you and try to get involved, but you zap them with your shield and they back away or turn and run. The shield is so subtle that at times you don’t even know it exists, and you get confused by people pulling away from you. This shield can take the form of coldness, wise cracking, fear of being hurt, aloofness, unwillingness to change or take a risk, fear of being taken advantage of, fear of intimacy, fear of failure, fear of hurting others, or any other feeling that keeps you from connecting emotionally with another person

Fulfillment of the Prophecy: Because negative self-scripts predict the worst, you at some subconscious level work to achieve the worst and succeed in fulfilling the negative prophecy of: failure, rejection, loss, disapproval, or any other catastrophe or malady. It is a pattern of being self-destructive with one’s life.

How To Become An Esteem Generator

STEP 1: The first step in becoming your own “esteem generator” is to release all of your negative self scripts.

Begin by making a list under each of the following categories:

1. Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily. E.g. “I’m a bad mother” “I don’t deserve to be loved” I’m a useless so and so”

2. Negative statements about yourself which sprinkle your every­day conversation. E.g. “I’m not very good at….” “I’m not good with money”

3. Self-deprecating remarks that influence your behavior or beliefs. “I’m a loser” “I’m so stupid” “I’m a failure”

4. Negative descriptions given to you by members of your family of origin or peer group when you were younger onto which you hold even to this day. E.g. “you will never amount to anything” “you’re too big for your boots”

5. Negative feedback you get from your spouse, boss, teacher, colleagues, children, parents, relatives, or others that you take personally and incorporate into your personal belief system. E.g. “You’ll never save up for your own home, the way you waste your money”

6. Negative self-images you have of your body, looks, face, weight, coloring, hair, feet, or other parts of your body, which as you visualize, influence your presentation of self to others. “I hate my fat thighs” “I’m ugly”

7. Negative assessment you or others have made of your competency, skills, ability, knowledge, intelligence, creativity, or common sense. You have agreed with this internally and, thus, believe it true of you. E.g. “you don’t have the brain for business”

8. Negative stories about your past behavior, failures, or performances that you systematically run over in your mind and which influence your current conduct. E.g. “once a cheater, always a cheater, once a smoker, always a smoker” etc.

9. Negative attitudes about the possibility of your achievement of success in your life; these influence your motivation, effort, and drive for attainment of goals. E.g. “I will never get a promotion/pay rise

10. Negative visualizations you have of your current status or state in life to your personal detriment. E.g. “I’m just a housewife”

11. Feelings of guilt for real or imagined debilitating wrongs you have committed that prevent positive self-valuing thoughts. E.g. “I don’t deserve happiness because I cheated on my ex girlfriend.”

12. Negative prophecies that you or others have made about yourself, your future, your success, your relationships, your family, or your health. E.g. “I’ll never find my perfect partner”

Now that you have created a list of all your negative self scripts, start with the most “highly rated script” or “the most highly charged” belief and apply EFT to each item on your list.

Examples:

“Even though I’m a bad mother, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”

“Even though I don’t deserve to be loved, I deeply and completely love and accept myself

“Even though I’m not good with money” etc

STEP 2: Counter negative self-scripts and feel better about yourself with these “I” Catching Mirror Exercises!

“I” Catching Mirror Exercise # 1- Self Appreciation Script

Use this exercise if you are feeling generally unloved, unappreciated and unnoticed. Replace the word “nobody” with the name of the person who is making you feel this way.

Instructions:

Standing in front of the mirror, look yourself in the “I” and while rubbing the sore spot or tapping the karate chop repeat the following:

“Even though (nobody) appreciates me, I choose to shower MYSELF with adulation and bathe myself in love”

“Even though (nobody) loves me, I choose to shower MYSELF with adulation and bathe myself in love”

Even though (nobody) pays any attention to me, I choose to shower MYSELF with adulation and bathe myself in love”

Tap several rounds of:

  • Nobody appreciates me
  • Nobody loves me
  • Nobody pays any attention to me

Then tap several rounds of:

  • I choose to shower MYSELF with adulation and bathe myself in love

“I” Catching Mirror Exercise # 2 – Statements of Self-Belief

“I am” “I can” “I will”

The daily use of these “I” statements is another form of self-affirmation designed to counter negative self-concepts. It can result in a positive attitude, optimism, and can motivate you toward emotional growth and progress.

Here are some healing, positive self-scripts you can give to yourself to counter your negative self-scripts (with or without the mirror!).

“I am” statements

This are positive affirmations of a real state of being that exists in you. Brainstorm and write your own list of “I am” statements, by taking a personal positive inventory of your attributes, strengths, talents, and competencies.

Examples include:

  • I am competent
  • I am energetic
  • I am strong
  • I am enthusiastic
  • I am intelligent
  • I am relaxed
  • I am beautiful
  • I am joyful
  • I am a good person
  • I am trusting
  • I am caring
  • I am generous
  • I am loving
  • I am courageous
  • I am smart
  • I am forgiving
  • I am creative
  • I am open
  • I am talented
  • I am sharing

Repeat these “I am” statements while tapping the EFT points to install a new healthier self-script.

“I Can” Statements

These are positive affirmations of your ability to accomplish goals. It is a statement of your belief in your power to grow, to change, and to help yourself.

Brainstorm and write your own “I can” statements and tap on them.

Examples include:

  • I can lose weight
  • I can stop smoking
  • I can heal
  • I can handle my children
  • I can let go of guilt
  • I can gain self-confidence
  • I can let go of fear
  • I can take risks
  • I can change
  • I can be a winner
  • I can be positive
  • I can be strong
  • I can be a problem solver
  • I can pass calculus
  • I can handle my own problems
  • I can laugh and have fun
  • I can be honest with my feelings
  • I can be assertive
  • I can let go of being compulsive
  • I can control my temper
  • I can succeed

“I Will” Statements of Positive Change in Your Life

These are positive affirmations of a change you want to achieve. They are positive statements of what you want to happen. They are your “success prophecies.”

Brainstorm and write your own list of “I will” statements and tap on them to help install more empowering self-scripts.

Examples include:

  • I will like myself better each day
  • I will gain emotional strength each day
  • I will lose weight each day
  • I will smoke less each day
  • I will control my temper today
  • I will give others responsibility for their lives today
  • I will grow emotionally stronger each day
  • I will smile more at my customers today
  • I will offer my comments in class today
  • I will praise my children today
  • I will feel good things about me today
  • I will sleep easily tonight
  • I will feel less guilt each day
  • I will face my fears courageously today
  • I will take on only what I can handle today
  • I will take care of me today
  • I will challenge myself to change today
  • I will manage my time better today
  • I will handle my finances wisely today
  • I will take a risk to grow today

“I” Catching Mirror Exercise # 3 – Self Appreciation Meditation

This is a self-appreciation meditation by Shakti Gawain, which you can use EFT with.

Tap the EFT points as you imagine yourself in some everyday situation, and picture someone (maybe someone you know, or a stranger) looking at you with great love and admiration and telling you something they really like about you.

Now picture a few more people coming up and agreeing that you are a very wonderful person. (If this embarrasses you, stick with it.) Imagine more and more people arriving and gazing at you with tremendous love and respect in their eyes. Picture yourself in a parade or on a stage, with throngs of cheering, applauding people, all loving and appreciating you. Hear their applause ringing in your ears. Stand up and take a bow, and thank them for their support and appreciation.

Here’s to a new healthier self-esteem!

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

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