Overcoming Negative Emotions And Feelings In And About Relationships With EFT

by Silvia Hartmann

Release Jealousy, Irritation, Love Pain, Fear Of Commitment, Conflicting Feelings, Insecurity, Low Self Esteem, Fear of Rejection, Anger, Sadness, Bereavement and Depression And Set Yourself Free!

1. Releasing Ourselves from The Stranglehold of Emotions

At the core and center of all relationship problems lie strong and overwhelming emotions such as fear, low self esteem, unpleasant emotions such as jealousy, feeling abandoned, feeling hurt, feeling unlovable, feeling trapped, feeling desperate, feeling unloved.

If there weren’t any emotions involved, there wouldn’t be such a thing as a relationship problem at all – this is important to note and to remember.

After all, if a single man wasn’t afraid of rejection and the painful emotions this creates, he could just chat up one woman after another, 40 a night, every night, until one finally said “Yes please!”

If a battered woman wasn’t low, depressed, unhappy, scared, and worst of all, probably still in love with the guy in question, she would probably be able to pick up and leave.

So first of all, sit back for a moment and consider what the worst problem are (or the things that cause you to feel the worst, to use different words) and either write it down or make a mental note. I’ve put the probable corresponding emotions in brackets, but it’s the statements that count. Do this now.

Examples could be:

He is driving me crazy with his womanizing (anger!)

I can’t stand her company any more (repulsion, rejection)

She doesn’t even know that I exist (sadness, anger, helplessness)

I’m sure he’s having an affair (fear, terror, anxiety, panic)

I don’t trust her anymore (hurt, anger)

This relationship is killing me (depression, sadness, fear)

2. Use The Technique

Pick the worst of those statements to now try out if our wonderful Emotional Freedom Technique works for you. A quick word about its effectiveness. In the general population (ie not hospitalized or imprisoned folk) this works first time for about 85% of people. The rest need more perseverance and it will work eventually. It’s easy to do and good for you. And it’s free. So now go to the treatment page and try this out for yourself to see how much better you can feel about your problems, then come back and read the rest of this article.

3. What Happens Next

When you can remove bad feelings, two things happen. The first is that your body says, “Thank you VERY much!” and you’re less likely to be suffering from headaches, heart attacks, skin rashes, sleeplessness and all kinds of other problems.

The second thing is that you get to think clearly again. This is especially important when there are decisions to be made, such as should I continue with this relationship, or should I get out and start afresh? That’s not all though. When your inborn common sense can get to work and is no longer overwhelmed by all these overpowering emotions, you can often also find that new ideas turn up, different ideas as to how you can deal with the situation before you.

4. Magic By Proxy

Now the magic part – how to change another. By accident, it was discovered that by doing the energy balancing on yourself, you can somehow affect others. Now don’t ask me how, what or why, I don’t know, but I do know it works.

It was invented or discovered by a mother who was sitting by the incubator of her tiny premature baby and who had been told that the child would not survive the night. She was a therapist, absolutely distraught and used the EFT technique to calm herself. As she tapped, the baby began to move a little, then its colour changed and it did not die. The mother was convinced that it was her tapping that had somehow created the change in the baby, and “Proxy Tapping” was born. I’ve used it, like tens of thousands of others by now, and it really works much better than distant healing – it’s like something real is going on that we just can’t explain yet.

You don’t have to believe that it works, by the way. Just do it for a couple of days and notice the results!

5. Beliefs About The World

You can just treat your relationship pains with EFT and all is well. However, you can use it for more than that.

For examples, beliefs such as, “All men are bastards” have a nasty habit of becoming absolutely true for those who believe it, whilst the nice men pair off with the women who believe that “I will find a nice man who loves me and makes me feel wonderful at every street corner!”.

Similarly, beliefs such as “Nobody loves me”, “I’m too ugly to be lovable”, “I’ll never find a decent partner”, “Only model perfect people can have a lover” and so forth are superb reality creators as well as being very very depressing to ponder on at any length.

You can change these beliefs with EFT just as well as you can release bad feelings, because these are linked with feeling bad.

6. Conflicting Emotions – Being Torn Apart

One of the worst types of emotions in relationships is being torn between love and hate, anger and forgiveness, fear and longing and any combination of feelings you can imagine.

You can use EFT to make peace between parts of you that are pulling you in opposite directions by using double statements with an “and” connection to express the conflict you are feeling, such as:

“Being with her is destroying me AND I cannot live without her.”

“I want to leave him AND he is the father of our children who need him.”

“I love her AND I despise her.”

“I want him AND I hate myself for it.”

“I want to stand up to her AND there is nothing I can do.”

If you find the “and” connection a little strained, you can say “but” instead; the main thing is that both the conflict partners are together in one sentence to release the feeling of see-sawing from one thing to the other or of feeling like you are tearing apart under the strain.

You can use more than two conflicting statements in one sentence if you need to when you do the tapping, as well.

6. Good Luck!

Ok, so there you have it. I hope you’ll use this wonderful thing, and remember to tell people you like about it too. If you would like to know more about EFT and how to use it with just about everything from weight loss to money problems, I’ve written a book called “Adventures In EFT” you might find useful , helpful and interesting.

EFT for Romantic Rejection, Relationship Breakups and “Love Pain”

by Robert Elias Najemy

One of our most devastating emotional experiences is the loss of a loved one. Dr. Roger Callahan the founder of Thought Field Therapy (on which EFT is based) has called this “love pain” and has dedicated a whole book and video to the subject.

Employing EFT on Romantic Rejection

Here is a list of some of the emotions we might feel when someone leaves us. Below each emotion we present some possible set up phrases. These lists as always are there to guide you and never to limit you. There are many other possibilities.

1. Rejection (demeaned, worthless) because he/she does not want to be with me.

A. Even though I feel rejected (demeaned, worthless) because (name of person)____ left me, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I felt rejected (demeaned, worthless) because (name of person)____ left me, I now feel (realize, experience) my self-worth as a unique being without him/her.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this feeling of rejected (being demeaned, worthlessness).

C. Reminder Phrase = Rejected ( demeaned, worthlessness) because _____ left.

2. Fear of continuing life without this person.

A. Even though I fear continuing life alone without (name of person)____ , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I feared continuing life alone without (name of person)____ , I now feel (realize, experience) self-confidence and powerfully capable of dealing with life.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear of dealing with life.

C. Reminder Phrase = Fear of dealing with life (without ______).

3. Fear (shame) of what others will think about me now that he/she has left.

A. Even though I fear what others will think because (name of person)____ left me, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I feared what others would think because (name of person)____ left me , I now feel (realize, experience) my self-worth as a unique being, regardless of what they think.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear of what they think.

C. Reminder Phrase = Fear of what they think.

4. Fear that I will not find anyone else to share my life with.

A. Even though I fear I will not find anyone else to share my life with, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now, I feared I would not find anyone else to share my life with, I now am confident that I deserve and will attract the perfect being for me.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear of not finding someone else.

C. Reminder Phrase = Fear of not finding someone else.

5. Hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) of not having this person to hold, share, make love to, communicate with, etc.

A. Even though I feel hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) because I do not have (name of person)____ to hold (share, make love to, communicate with etc. ? be specific), I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I felt I hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) because I do not have (name of person)____ to hold (share, make love to communicate with etc. ? be specific), I now experience the fullness of my being and of my life and lovingly connect with those around me.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear o Hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) because I do not have (name of person)____ to hold (share, make love to communicate with etc. ? be specific),

C. Reminder Phrase = Hurt (pain, unhappiness, loneliness) because I do not have (name of person)____ to hold (share, make love to communicate with etc. ? be specific),

6. Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) that he/she is unjustly harming, betraying, hurting us in this way.

A. Even though I feel Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ has behaved unjustly, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I felt Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ has behaved unjustly, I now have faith in the wisdom of what life gives me for my growth process.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from feeling Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ has behaved unjustly.

C. Reminder Phrase = Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ has behaved unjustly.

7. Guilt (self-rejection) because I feel that I am to blame for his/her leaving.

A. Even though I feel guilt (self-rejection) because (name of person)____ left me , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I felt guilt (self-rejection) because (name of person)____ left me, I now forgive and love myself, realizing that I have done and will do my best.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from Guilt (self-rejection) because (name of person)____ left me.

C. Reminder Phrase = Guilt (self-rejection) because (name of person)____ left me.

8. Jealousy if (because) he/she is with someone else

A. Even though I feel jealous because (name of person)____ is with someone else , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I felt jealous because (name of person)____ is with someone else, I now feel the fullness of my being trust that life gives me exactly what I need for my growth process (self-actualization).

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from feeling jealousy because (name of person)____ is with someone else.

C. Reminder Phrase = Injustice (bitterness, resentment, betrayal) because (name of person)____ left me.

9. Anger (hate, revenge) because he/she has caused now so much pain.

A. Even though I feel anger (hate, revenge) because (name of person)____ left me (is with someone else) , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I felt anger (hate, revenge) because (name of person)____ left me (is with someone else), I now realize that I am perfectly capable of being happy and fulfilled without him/her.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from feeling anger (hate, revenge) because (name of person)____ left me (is with someone else).

C. Reminder Phrase = Anger (hate, revenge) because (name of person)____ left me (is with someone else).

10. Depression (disillusionment, discouragement) that I cannot have what I want and cannot do anything about it.

A. Even though I feel depressed (disillusioned, discouraged) because I cannot be with (name of person)____ , I deeply and profoundly love myself.
or
Even though until now I felt depressed (disillusioned, discouraged) because I could not be with (name of person)____ , I now realize (feel, experience) that I have the power to create the life I want.

B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from feeling depressed (disillusioned, discouraged) because I cannot be with (name of person)____.

C. Reminder Phrase = Depressed (disillusioned, discouraged) because I cannot be with (name of person)____

It should not take long to work through all of the above. The pain which often takes months, and for some people, years, can be removed in a week or less. We help no one by feeling all these emotions.

Better to get on with our lives.

Below are some thoughts about what we can gain from such a situation.

LEARNING FROM A RELATIONSHIP BREAKDOWN

A divorce, separation or, in general, any loss of an important relationship is a painful experience. . Such pain can seriously diminish our peace and happiness.  If we are thinking of separating, there are many lessons we need to examine before we can come to the conclusion that we must separate from someone. But if the other leaves us or this separation has already happened, we might be able to benefit from the following.

1. Our first lesson is to examine our behavior to see how we might have contributed to the problem. Only in this way can we create a new healthy relationship if we chose to.

In relation to this we might want to examine the following:

a. We may have been criticizing, complaining, rejecting or otherwise causing the other to feel unaccepted.
b. We may have been seeking continual affirmation in ways that may have been tiring for the other.
c. Our fears may have been causing us to be over sensitive and annoying.
d. Perhaps we were playing games of power, who is right or who is more successful.
e. We might have been playing roles such as the child, the parent, the savior, the holy one, the rebel, the teacher or some other role which may have affected the other?s behavior.
f. We may have guilt feelings that were making us vulnerable to the other?s words or behaviors.
g. Perhaps we were not communicating our needs clearly and effectively as an adult and were suppressing ourselves or complaining, criticizing or threatening.
h. We might have been projecting onto the other our childhood or other experiences.
i. The other might have been reflecting back to us our lack of self-esteem or self-respect.
j. We may have attachments that were coming between us.
k. We may have inner conflicts, which were reflecting back to us from the other.

2. We may need to learn to love the other in spite of his or her behavior, regardless of whether we stay with that person or not.

3. We can discover that we can live without this person and that happiness, security and love are internal states that are always within us, if only we allow ourselves to experience them.

4. We can use this opportunity to develop greater inner strength so as to feel confident and able to face whatever may come to us in the game of life.

5. Most of us will need to change our self-image. We need now to learn to accept, love and respect ourselves more, so that we do not create the same problem in our next relationship or in life in general.

6. By directing our energies in a spiritual direction and developing a relationship with God – the Universal Being, we are no longer so vulnerable or so dependent on others for our feelings of security and self-worth.

7. We may also need to learn that the other’s decision to leave may not be a rejection at all. He or she may love and respect us dearly but be forced by other needs to seek happiness elsewhere.

Our lessons might be separated into five categories:

1. We might need to learn to communicate more effectively, assertively and lovingly.

2. Perhaps we need to let go of some attachments, which are increasing our conflicts with others and diminishing our happiness.

3. Examine our behaviors that might be annoying the other.

4. Free ourselves from subconscious programmings, which limit our self-esteem and ability to attract the behaviors that we deserve.

5. Develop inner feelings of security, self worth and freedom.

Once our happiness, security and love have become internalized, we can experience unconditional love.

Although we need to make every possible step to heal our relationships, if and when a relationship breaks down, there is still much we can learn.

Robert Elias Najemy is the author The Psychology of Happiness available at  http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/psychofhappiness.html.

Using EFT To Release the Pain Of “Saying Goodbye”

By Angie Muccillo © 2007

The Pain of Saying Goodbye

Is there a person, place, or situation in your life you have to say “goodbye” to? Is someone you love moving away, or dying, or are you the one moving away and leaving the place and the people you love behind? Does the thought of saying goodbye in this case cause sadness or pain, regret, abandonment, grief, bitterness or fear? Alternatively is there someone or something in the past that you had to say goodbye to and the thought of it still creates pain?

As life is never stagnant the people and places in our lives will always come and go and so we are all at some stage faced with the prospect of saying goodbye. This is a time which can be filled with an array of positive and negative emotions. Many a song lyric, movie, poem and novel has been written around the theme of painful goodbyes.

Tap On Your Goodbyes

Using EFT to release the pain of “saying goodbye” can make it easier to accept the situation or to “let go and move on” from whatever person or circumstance is leaving or has left your life. Saying goodbye is not always painful, but when it is painful, taking the time to focus on it and tap can be very healing and emotionally liberating. It is also useful as a personal peace exercise.

How To Tap on Your Goodbyes

Past Goodbyes

Make a list of all the “painful goodbyes” you can think of from when you were a child until now. Give each “painful goodbye” a name or label (“the time I had to say goodbye to……”)and apply the EFT Movie Technique to each one of these movies until you release all the negative emotions around these specific events.

Future Goodbyes

Think of a person, place or thing that you will be saying goodbye to in the near future and on a scale of 0-10 rate how upset you are at the thought of this? E.g. It may be a friend who’s moving away or a close colleague who is leaving work or a child that is moving out of home or a parent who is returning to their home country or a partner who is leaving for war duty etc. Use the sets ups below or create your own.

“Even though it’s hard to say goodbye to______________ I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “It’s hard to say goodbye”

“Even though saying goodbye to ______________ is painful and fills me with (sorrow/pain/fear/regret/anger etc) I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “Saying goodbye is painful”

“Even though I don’t want to say goodbye to_____________ I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “I don’t want to say goodbye”

“Even though saying goodbye hurts, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “Saying goodbye hurts”

“Even though I don’t want to move on in my life without ____________________, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “I don’t want to move on without you. Don’t make me”

“Even though I hate goodbyes, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “I hate goodbyes”

“Even though I’m afraid of letting go and moving on, I deeply and completely accept myself.” Reminder: “Fear of letting go and moving on”

Energetic Goodbyes

Perhaps there is someone you still haven’t said “goodbye” to “properly” in your heart or you didn’t have a chance to say goodbye to before they died. If there is someone you feel “ready” to say “goodbye” to, you can either think about or look at a picture of them and tap continuously as you repeat the word “goodbye” at each point.

“Say Goodbye” to the Pain of “Saying Goodbye”

Someone very important to me is about to leave my life by moving away, so now more than ever I am very grateful for the use of EFT in helping me to release the “yucky stuff” so I can embrace the experience with joy and gratitude. For me this current “goodbye” has triggered deep sadness reminding me of the pain associated with “past goodbyes” all of which I can neutralize with EFT.

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

From Fear Of Intimacy To An Open Heart

By Angie Muccillo © 2007

Set Ups with Commitment!
Using the EFT Set Up Statement as “A Pledge”

To me the use of the ‘sore spot’ when performing the EFT Set Up feels somewhat like making a pledge. We place a hand over the heart and massage it while making a verbal acknowledgment, statement of intention, purpose or commitment.

A pledge is somewhat like a ‘heartfelt promise’ or commitment. We make all sorts of pledges – we pledge things to ourselves, to our country, to our kids, to others…

When we make a pledge, we state our commitment to doing or being or having something. When we make a pledge, we are directly stating our intention. I like to use the EFT set up statement, as a way of making a pledge (to release what is holding me back in preference for something I want to be, do or have.)

Below is an example of an EFT Pledge Statement using the common‘fear of intimacy’ as an example. You can use this exercise if you have been hurt in a relationship and fear getting close to someone else for fear of getting hurt again. This is a great “baggage buster” exercise! “Out with the old” fears and “in with the new” commitment to love!

EFT Pledge Statement – From Fear Of Intimacy To An Open Heart

Try this heart opening exercise..

Place your hand on your heart (otherwise known as the sore spot in EFT) and massage it in a circular motion while making the following pledge statement aloud:

“Even though I have this fear of intimacy, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I fear that if I get close to someone again, I will just risk getting hurt again and that will mean experiencing all that pain over again, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I cover up my fear of intimacy by busying myself and keeping myself distracted, I realize this no longer serves my highest good and choose instead to release and trust that things will always turn out for the best, even if at the time it doesn’t appear to be so. Even though I fear making myself vulnerable for fear of getting hurt, I choose to open my heart slowly, bit by bit, at my own pace and in my own time. I choose to learn how to trust others again and start by trusting myself implicitly. Even though this fear of intimacy is preventing me from having the best possible relationship, I choose to open my heart to love again so that I can enjoy deep, meaningful and loving relationships. Even though at times I don’t allow an intimate connection with myself, I choose to nurture and support myself in all that I do. I choose to let go of my fear of being hurt and I choose to feel safe and secure.”

Reminder Pledge:

Tap one (shortcut) round of each of these statements

Round 1: “I hereby choose to be completely free of the all fears that are keeping me from being intimate and loving again.”

Round 2: “I hereby release all fears and doubts about my ability to be intimate and to love again.”

Round 3: “I choose to open my heart slowly, bit by bit, at my own pace and in my own time”

Round 4: “I choose to let go of my fear of being hurt and I choose to feel safe and secure in a new relationship”

Round 5: “I choose to open my heart to love again so that I can enjoy deep, meaningful and loving relationships”

Round 6: “I hereby commit to love”

Create your own pledge statements for any area in your life or problem you would like to address or change.

What sort of a pledge will you make?

Angie Muccillo
EFT Practitioner & Instructor
Remedial Massage Therapist (Member AAMT)
(BA Social Science- Psych/Soc)
(Cert IV Remedial Massage)
(EFT-ADV)

Location

Sublime Massage Clinic
Hutton Street
Thornbury Melbourne

Vic Australia 3071

mob: 0417391055
sublime@pacific.net.au
angiemuccillo@gmail.com

Healing Relationships with ZPoint

ZPoint For Relationships

“If you’ve experienced the pain of divorce or separation or had a loved one die, you may still carry deep, unresolved feelings of anger, sadness, resentment or unforgiveness. ZPoint for Relationships can help you resolve these feelings, and very quickly. This simple process can guide you, naturally and safely, to release these feelings…. Most people report that using the process makes them feel centered, relaxed and very peaceful. And, most important, you will discover that the former conflict within your heart, as it relates to the person you are thinking of, will simply melt away and becomes a non-issue. You are always in charge and in control. This is a good feeling in itself. ” Grant Connolly

Use the following ZPoint procedure as a way of improving relationships with anyone – family, friends, and partners and especially in clearing away the debris of past anger, hurt, resentment, disappointment, hatred and any other negative emotion that you may be holding on to.

Having a tool to release these emotions quickly and painlessly goes a long way in helping us let go of the past and release the ‘emotional baggage’ that can interfere with current relationships and stop us from moving forward and forming new relationships.

Overview of the Process

Every one of us has memories of the pain and upset caused by one or more of our relationships. This pain is real, and it is widely believed that you just have to live with it, until time heals those wounds. Unfortunately, time is sometimes very slow in doing its work. We’ve all seen people who lost a loved one many years ago and even the thought of that person brings tears of regret or sadness to their eyes. Perhaps you are one of these people yourself. The process you are about to experience can eliminate the pain and upset of those memories within a matter of minutes. This is not just temporary relief, but a complete and permanent cleansing of the anger, regret, resentment, fear, upset or unforgiveness that characterize the burden we carry from many of our relationships, whether these heavy burdens be in our past or in our present lives.

The result of applying this process is that you become peaceful about the relationship you were working on. Most people who have used ZPoint report that what previously got them upset just wasn’t all that important any more. They were no longer bothered by the deep anger, resentment or whatever it was that had previously caused them pain or upset whenever they thought about that particular individual.

Clearing a relationship with someone you love, such as a deceased parent, can bring perspective and loving acceptance while releasing any residual anger, guilt or upset.

Clearing a relationship with someone you hate can bring peace, perspective and acceptance as well. While you may never choose to be around that person in the future, he or she will cease to be important in your life and in your thoughts

When to apply Z Point for healing relationships

• After a relationship breakup
• After the death of a loved one
• At work, with people who you feel negative towards
• Family members you have ‘fallen out’ with
• Parent issues – anger, bitterness, hurt, regret etc
• Children issues – frustration, disappointment, worry, hurt etc
• Spouse issues – anger, resentment, bitterness, frustration, hurt

The ZPoint Clearing Process

Choose a cue word and install the Zpoint healing program if this is your first time using Zpoint. Click here to learn more about the Zpoint process.

Decide on the relationship you wish to heal

Write down the name of the person you are working with. Make certain your subconscious knows exactly what you are clearing.

On a scale of 0-10, how intense are the feelings associated with this relationship right now? After setting your intention to heal the relationship, say the following three statements aloud or in your mind. At the end of each statement, repeat your cue word softly over and over for about 30 seconds, just as if you were saying a mantra. Remember to stay tuned in to your body for signs of release.

Step 1. I clear all of the ways that I feel anything less than love for (name of person).

Step 2. I clear all of the patterns connected to all of those ways.

Step 3. I clear all of the emotions* connected to all of those patterns.

* “All of the emotions” always include, but are not limited to, any anger, judgment, criticism, blame, shame, guilt, resentment, fear and unforgiveness. (You only need to read this list once – your subconscious mind will remember each emotion from this point forward.)

Check-in: If, after completing the above, you don’t feel completely peaceful toward the person you are working on, use the steps below, remembering to repeat your cue at the end of each statement.

Linking: Note in the following example how we link each “way” and then say steps 2 and 3 at the end. This is called “linking the ways.” It is a particularly effective means of grouping similar way statements together. Then it is possible to clear all of the patterns and emotions linked to all of those ways at the same time.

I clear all of the ways that I feel anger toward (name of person).

I clear all of the ways that I feel judgmental toward (name of person).

I clear all of the ways that I feel critical toward (name of person).

I clear all of the ways that I blame (name of person) for anything.

I clear all of the ways that I feel shame in connection with (name of person).

I clear all of the ways that I feel resentful of (name of person).

I clear all of the ways that I feel guilty when I think about (name of person).

I clear all of the ways that I feel any fear when I think about (name of person).

I clear all of the ways that I feel any unforgiveness toward (name of person).

Then, link all of the ways by saying the following:

I clear all of the patterns connected to all of those ways.

I clear all of the emotions connected to all of those patterns.

Clearing the Relationship with Yourself

Clearing this relationship can have the most profound and lasting impact on your life. Your relationship with yourself affects virtually every aspect of your life, including your relationship with money and abundance. There is a direct correlation between how we feel about ourselves and how willing we are to allow ourselves joy, ease and financial security. The more we accept ourselves, the more good we will allow into our lives.

Just clear the following:

I clear all of the ways that I am angry with myself for anything.

I clear all of the ways that I sit in judgment over my actions.

I clear all of the ways that I criticize myself.

I clear all of the ways that I blame myself for anything.

I clear all of the ways that I am ashamed of anything I’ve ever done.

I clear all of the ways that I am guilty about anything I’ve ever done or by omission refused to do.

I clear all of the ways that I don’t trust myself.

I clear all of the ways that I seek to limit myself or limit my feelings. I clear all of the ways that I feel resentful toward anyone because of the choices I’ve had to make in my life.

I clear all of the ways that I fear my own power.

I clear all of the ways that I won’t forgive myself.

I clear all of the ways that I feel responsible to others for anything. I

clear all of the ways that I won’t nurture myself.

I clear all of the ways that I refuse to love and accept myself completely.

I clear all of the patterns connected to all of those ways.

I clear all of the emotions* connected to all of those patterns.

I love myself.

I love who I am.

I accept myself fully and completely. I accept who I am.

I accept my life completely.

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